Hun, please don't feel bad. DS1 had a tongue-tie also and we only discovered by accident when he was 2 weeks that that was the reason he couldn't attach. Before that a couple of the midwives had mentioned that he had one, but didn't think it was causing a problem. We were just very, very lucky that we saw a doctor who specialises in t-t - we went there for something else! He ended up having it snipped at 3 weeks and it was very easy and painless.

I am sure it will be fine hun. I know of people who have had it done in older babies and it hasn't been as bad as they were expecting. I hope this is true for you also. And definitely don't feel guilty - it's the health system that's let you down.