Really really need reassurance...circumsision :(

[~clover~]

Its not happening any time soon & may not even happen at all, but I want to cry at the possibility.

We were at the doc's office today & I quickly got him to have a look at DS's foreskin coz its been red alot & sometimes swollen up too.

He had a look & said his foreskin is long & is actually a little tight. He said there's a good chance it'll be fine, but if it hasn't loosened by the time he's 4 or 5, they might consider circumsision.

I want to cry. I hate the idea of it. I know its medical & may not be a choice, but its not fair. I also know how horribly selfish I sound, but this is really tearing me apart right now. I'll spend the next 3 - 4 years stressing about it, praying he doesn't have to do it.

DH has said that if he has to have it done, then He'll do it too (Kinda cute )

Whats wrong with me? Please tell me others have been told the same, but the skin loosened on its own...please

[Trillian]

I reckon I would be feeling the exact same way if I had to make that decision about one of my boys My boys look a little long too, but I don't exactly know what constitutes too long to know if it is an issue or not kwim? I really hope that the next few years sees some improvement and he doesn't need it done. And your DH is a sweetie too

[willow5]

My DS1 used to have redness which I had checked out when he was a baby, doc said the same thing, but he's 17 now and did need to have it done.
DS2 had a longer foreskin which also used to get a bit red he's 15 and no need for him to be done either so try not to stress too much.

I think some doctors jump to the circumsision conclusion too quickly.
Obviously there are some times where it is completely necessary but not always.

[~clover~]

Thanks. He has said to pay attention & if we see it 'ballooning' before a wee it'll have to be done soon. It can cause kidney problems etc with the wee not getting out properly. & just hope it is ok.

[Willow]

My nephew had similar issues - tight foreskin which didn't retract properly and was often red and sore. He was about 2 at the time. From memory, SIL was given a cream (some sort of steroid I think??) to put on it and it has loosened over time so he will not need to be circumcised.

[~clover~]

Cool, I thought I'd heard something like that before!
Its just the whole worrying thats got me. 3 - 4 years of wondering & it probably won't even happen.

[Schmickers]

You're right, it probably will never happen. Just keep an eye on it and keep it in the back of your mind.

As far as the redness is concerned, what do you bath him in? A red foreskin is sometimes a sign of irritation from bathing products, not necessarily infection.

And I think your DH is a very, very brave man. Good on him. I don't know if I'd be so brave!