Sounds like a nice day with just the two of you is in order here! Just try and do something special that you wouldn't normally do and you won't feel bad about it at all! For DD we did such a big party that people thought we were going to do a surprise wedding, but with DS we are just going to do something simple like maybe a trip to the zoo for the 4 of us, as it really wasn't worth it! There will be many years of parties to come yet