Hey Ali, DD's was similar to all of the above only we had to have 2 family parties as the ILs didn't get along with anyone else .

Best bit of advice I can give though.
A 1yo birthday party is really for you guys to celebrate your little person. They really won't get a whole lot out of it, so do what suits you two as the parents, not what you think people want to see at a 1st b'day party (runs and hides).