Could somebody please help with co-sleeping how to do it safely?? My 3 week old will only sleep on me in an upright position so I need to figure out how to co-slep so I can get some sleep too as am going mad sometimes only have 1-2 hours sleep myself as she has really bad wind. Everyone has different opinions on what's safe...I've been told she shouldn't sleep in our bed as my partner smokes so is not good for her i guess smoke may come off his clothes/hair into the bed?? Others have said I need sleep and the risk of this would be reduced as he smokes outside and washes hands etc before handling bub & going to bed. I've been told not to put a pillow on the edge of the bed as she can smother herself, but then someone advised to use a pillow to stop her falling off the bed....what the heck is the best way to do it??? Different people say different ways which I find really confusing and don't know what to follow. My first bub and am paranoid please help!!
The Australian Breastfeeding Association has a fabulous pamphlet - "Sleeping with your baby" It only costs a dollar or so!
Babies are designed to sleep with their parents. 3 weeks ago she was in your tummy, listening to the sounds of your heartbeat and breathing,being rocked by your movement, and never needing to feel hungry. Now she is on the outside, the closest she can get to "home" is at your breast, or on your chest. The first 6 weeks or so are tough - but it gets better.
Your partner smoking is a complication - but there are ways to get around it. Your baby may benefit fom his own sleep space but right next to you. Many mums have found the armsreach co-sleeper very good for this. You can also get them through the Australian Breastfeeding Association - follow the link in my sig and go to their online store - Mothers Direct
Warm Regards
Barb
Re the smoking thing - I don't think washing his hands is enough (because smell will be on his clothes) - may need to have a shower & change clothes?
When DS has slept in our bed (which is only on occassion), I lie him in the crook of my arm, next to me on the bed. I put the covers over him - but not up near his face. I also put him on the outside of the bed (ie. not in the middle where the covers can be pulled up over his face). This works ok because I would feel if he tried to roll out etc - but I guess if I was a really heavy sleeper it might not work so well. Also, your arm goes dead after a while (but then, I don't do it every night - just if we are having a particularly bad time).
I know other people put bubs in the middle of the bed (ie. between them), but on top of the covers. They then wrap bubs up warmly in their own coverings.
I could be wrong, but I was under the impression that co-sleeping with a smoker was dangerous because they tend to sleep differently to non-smokers - more soundly I guess, and so aren't as aware of the baby in the bed. Could you buy another mattress for your DP so you and bub have the bed?
I co sleep with bub in the middle but no smokers, I know of a few people who brought a kid rail that you would usually use with and olderchild to stop them rolling out, they put it on there bed and bub sleeps on that sider next to mum only.
When dd was a nb I slept with her strapped to me in a hubabub. This kept her close and upright (she had wind and reflux) and I slept because I knew shw was safe from falling off me
Have you seen those little beds u can get that go in your bed? It's a little thing with walls and it has a little dim light u can use. I think I will buy one next time. With Noah he slept in the nook of one of our arms for a little while, would start in his pram (basinette) next to our bed and we'd put him in with us if he woke and wouldn't settle
Co sleeping safely how to, please help??
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