I've always fed DD to sleep, mostly in a chair by her bed, then transferred her into cot when she was asleep, if she is sick or having a bad night etc, I would cosleep in the spare room or our bed.

I have been wanting to night wean for ages, she still wakes once or twice and after a few bad nights decided to bite the bullet and do it. It worked well, DH got up to her for a week and she was fine to fall asleep on him, I can now get up to her and she is happy to fall asleep being rocked or cuddled, so the night weaning has worked well.

The problem is, we CANNOT get her back in the cot when she is asleep now, she immediately wakes and screams blue murder. She will fall asleep quickly and I usually wait 10mins til she is in a deep sleep ( this always worked well for me) but now as soon as she hits the cot she wakes and goes psycho. Dh or I end up in the spare room with her after trying for an hour +, she will then fall asleep next to me or DH quite happily. I had some success a few nights ago with just holding her hand thru the cot until she fell asleep but she will not even lie down to do this now, and ends up hysterical until we give up and go into bed with her.

Part of me wants to just let her cry in her cot until she falls asleep while I sit next to her but DH can't cope with hearing her cry for so long and it is creating a lot of tension in an already stressed relationship. He is going away for work soon for 3 weeks so I feel like trying it then. I would prefer to do it gently but I feel like every night it's getting worse.

I still BF to sleep at bedtimewhich is usually easy because she doesn't nap and is tired by then. I 'suspect' she might be getting molars but not sure, which obviously isn't helping. I can cope with broken sleep as I am used to it but both DD and DH are cranky from poor sleep, and it is driving me insane!

Anyone have any suggestions?
Should I try stopping feeding to sleep at bedtime and try to teach her to go to sleep herself?
Should I wait til DH goes away and go hardcore with letting her cry?
Should I take the rail off the cot and put a guard up so I can lie next to her to get her to sleep (this scares me in regard to her climbing out of bed)
I love not BFing overnight but feel like I created a new problem :-(