dont know what to do?

[luckymum1]

hi all was wondering if someone could help me....my little dd2 is almost 6 weeks old (wed) and she has what i think is reflux and the only way she will go to sleep is on her tummy, she will sleep for hrs but as soon as i put her on her back she screams...im not getting any sleep as i know babies are not suppose to be put to sleep on their tummies...but...she wont sleep on her back she just screams for hours and hours making herself sick.. i dont know what to do..she only sleeps either on her belly alone or on my belly or in her sling and neither of these choises make for a really good sleep for me as i have a 2.5 yo who wont nap during the day since dd2 has come along
what am i going to do?
oh and i have tried wrapping her tightly, having her bassinett elivated, dummy, rocking then putting her down (she just wakes and screams), bathing her, sleep depriving her during the day

[ezymay]

We have one of those breathing monitors maybe you could get one and then feel more secure if you dp sleep her on her tummy. I know some mum's that have done that. Its a tough one though. Good Luck!

[sunshine_sieben]

DD hated lying on her back, too. I can't blame her as I'm a tummy sleeper as well. I was too scared to let her, so she ended up sleeping on my chest for the first 4-8 weeks. Then I transitioned her to sleeping on her side right next to me. I didn't mind it at the time. At least this way I could keep an "eye" on her. I have since met a lot of mothers who let their children sleep on their side or belly (some of them nurses and midwives). With the next one, I will let him or her do that, if that's what they're more comfortable with. I know, you're not supposed to do it,...
I would NOT do that if the baby was under the influence of labour medication or anything like that, though. And I would NOT let him/her sleep on her tummy in a seperate room.

Sasa

[Arimeh]

My kids are tummy sleepers too.

We have a breathing monitor that goes under the mattress and goes off if their breathing dips below a certain amount of breaths in a minute.

It goes off quite regularly with DD - we think she has mild sleep apnoea (sp?) and is a very shallow breather - but it would happen to her if she slept on her tummy or her back, so we aren't concerned its because she's a belly sleeper.

I just feel grateful there are things like the monitors out there.

Oh - and my DD has silent reflux too - so wasn't happy unless she was on her tummy so that made the deal for us!

[EllaElla]

Our DS was early and spent a fair bit of time in the NIC in a humi crib! He became very comfortable sleeping on his tummy but then they were constantly monitoring with machines so I was OK with that. When he came home it was a nightmare he would only sleep on his tummy on my chest so i spent at least 8 weeks having very little sleep. We bought the Anglecare monitor and my DH insisted that DS would be fine to sleep on his tummy in his own room (in a acot). Emotionally I couldn't deal with this after all the monitor would go off if something went wrong and then what (this was how I felt not saying anyone else feels this way).

We ended up pursuing the sleeping on back ( me more so than DH) and at nearly 6 months now DS still refuses to sleep on his back but loves his side.

It's a really tough one. Tummy sleeping is all my parents knew and I turned out fine. The Do's and Don'ts change so often that i think going with your gut is best. My DS led me and he let me know he was a side sleeper!

[EllaElla]

Should add our DS had a few issues. one of whichwas reflux (at least thats what the PAED called it), his tiny tummy was not developed and his sphinkta (not sure how to spell it) was under developed and open constantly!. He was on Zantec for a little while but we found putting phone books under one end of his cot helped that especially while he matured.

what worked for us may not for you. DH didn't want prescription drugs to go near our son unless we had to. He was already dealing with enough.