Leasha, Bella is still having a feed between 1 and 2am every single night. I tried resettling her but she knows what she wants. Now I just hear her start to stir and give her the feed straight away. She is always still pretty much asleep when she has the feed and is settled until about 5 - 6am.
I just think it's better to give it to her rather than let her get all upset cause as you said, it takes more time to resettle them after a screaming match.
I don't reckon you are setting her up with any bad habits at all, it's just that some babies sleep through early and some don't. With my other 3 kids, 2 of them were sleeping through the night by about 5 months and the other was still getting up during the night at age 1.
Not sure if any of this helps, but just let you know that you aren't alone matey.