I only gave my kids a pillow in the cot wheni was getting ready to transfer them into a bed (about a month before) but i just gave them an old almost flat one. xander used to have the same p[roblem, so i used to lower him and and just pat his bum for ages, usually sitting next to his cot with a book LOL

When you put him to bed, maybe start some sort opf a routine?? Say bath - cuddles, book, and then lay him down, but when you lay him down, no eye contact. I do that, but just "goo night, i love you so much" and leave.... but i also have aneliese wrapped (i know thats abit hard when Tallon is much older and bigger!!!) I'm trying to think of other ways i have done it... i co slept with xander for a while, and then met Dh who moved in and Xander was moved to the bed and DH rolled about too much...

Anyways, HTH, i will keep thinking of other ways for you...

ETA and if you do go in to settle Tallon, NO EYE CONTACT!!! HEhehe. I find they scream louder if you talk to them while looking at them...