Um actually I would only do one thing at once, to be gentle. And I'd cut out the feeding to sleep first so that your LO can learn other ways of settling before going through the night weaning ordeal.

Pantley's "No cry sleep solution" is helpful for this - there's also a toddler one too but I haven't read that one.

We did the night weaning thing as DS was waking up and wanting BFs 7 times a night in the end and I was absolutely STUFFED. We used Dr Jay Gordon's site as a guide - it was helpful in helping us devise a plan. We didn't follow his exactly but it really was helpful so I'd recommend googling him.

None of it is an easy, quick process but I found it so worth it in the end! Good luck!