Hi, I’m wondering if anyone has some good ideas recommendations for settling my almost 12 month very mobile baby.

To give a brief history we had many issue initially with his sleep due to reflux, after we got that under control and using a hammock DS became fantastic at self settling we just used a musical toy and dummy as a cue to sleep and that worked great.
when he started crawling and decided that he only wanted to sleep on his stomach so the hammock was out and we had to move him to a cot, since then his sleeping deteriorated to him only falling asleep while I was holding him (and that would sometimes take over an hour) then we may have had one cycle with him in his cot and he co slept the rest of the night.

Recently that stopped working so now we’ve taken down the cot and now he sleeps on a mattress in his room with me in a bed in the same room. This has made a huge improvement he’s easier to resettle and can sometimes stay in his bed until 5am which is great really great!!! We want to gradually move towards him self settling but I’m having real issues getting him to sleep in the first place. Rocking him to sleep doesn’t work and neither does feeding him unless he’s really overtired. ATM I am lying next to him but he basically just tries repeatedly to get up and walk away as well as pinching scratching biting head butting me it ends up being quite stressful as its almost a wrestling match to get him to lie down.

I feel like I’m missing something with the initial settling we have a routine starts with dummy storytime, cuddles I feed him and then we lie down it’s the same everynight, same time but if anything the initial settling is getting worse.

Does anyone have any ideas? co sleeping isn’t an option either because none of us get any sleep.

TIA