I would also like to say great post Ozziehoffy. I second it!

Tenar, at around 4 months, it is very normal for babies to become more alert. They are becoming more aware of their surroundings and as a result it can be very hard to get them to sleep, and often even to stay still long enough to feed. This can be frustrating, but it is a good sign that she is developing well. I don't want to scare you, but around this time (or a bit later), night wakings can also increase. This is a period of rapid brain development and babies just seem to need extra feeds at night to cater for this. Also, as they start to learn new skills such as sitting, crawling and later standing, they start practising them when they stir rather than putting themselves back to sleep. It can be a tiring time, but I think part of the key to getting through is by accepting it as a necessary part of parenting, and the joy at seeing them growing up helps too.

I think the most common bad advice given to parents is "don't set up bad habits". I know I heard it many a time myself. It really is one of the most unfounded ideas though. Babies are too young to develop habits. They do things a certain way for a while, and then things change. It happens constantly. Babies who are fed, rocked, patted etc to sleep do not always need it. Even at a young age babies can distinguish between situations - a baby who needs to be bf to sleep at home will nearly always fall asleep just fine when mum isn't there. And at some stage they are perfectly happy to fall asleep without a feed anymore. In fact, studies and general experience show the reverse - the babies who are left to cry themselves to sleep are the ones who become toddlers and pre-schoolers who can't put themselves to sleep - because they don't have good associations with bed and sleep. Whereas my boys who were bf to sleep and never left to cry (and many more like them!) go to sleep very easily now - and have for a very long time. Often if we are running a bit late with dinner they will even get up from the table when they are finished and put themselves to bed!

You are doing a really awesome job hun. Keep up the great work, and don't worry about what anyone else says. Trust your instincts - they've done very well for you for this far!