Once upon a time sleep was easy. DD (13.5 months) used to nurse to sleep and was BF on demand. If she looked tired all I had to do was nurse her and she'd drop off to sleep. I fell pregnant when she was 9 months, by 11 months she was self weaning and totally self weaned 12.5 months. Sleep is now horrible. She barely naps during the day anymore but definitely needs it. If I do manage to get her to sleep during the day she'll sleep for 1-3 hours depending on the day but getting her to sleep is such a fight. If I manage to catch a very tiny window she will happily just lay next to me in bed, cuddle and fall asleep. If I try too early, she cries and screams for up to 2 hours, and if I try too late she's overtired and we have the same problem with crying and screaming. We're now also having the problem where she seems to get angry and will hit, pinch and bite (both me and herself) while she's crying.

Nights aren't quite as bad, usually DD will happily just fall asleep if both DF and I are in bed. But if I try and put her to bed without DF and I both being there it can be pretty hit and miss which makes it hard when he's on night shift! Her bed time has been shocking for quite some time, though thankfully we can now get her to sleep before 2am! We had managed to get it to 8pm when she was 7 months but then went overseas for 6 weeks and when we got home it went out the window and was back to being 2am. Now it's anything from 9:30-11pm. If I try any earlier it's just tantrums or she plays and jumps on us. I know her bed time issues are largely my doing as I was following her lead a bit too literally and now I'm worried I've 'broken' her.

What can I do to help her nap during the day and to get her sleeping earlier at night without the tantrums? I'm really worried about what will happen when baby #2 arrives in March.