hi

just wondering really and i guess asking for reassurance that i am doing the right thing or i am being a bit to harsh - be honest please, heres the run down;

since around 6mths old lani has been a BRILLIANT sleeper, no problems going to bed or staying asleep etc etc - however once in a blue moon when i put her down particularly for the evening she would grizzle for around 5 mins then go to sleep, maybe do it the next night - then back to happy to go to sleep again for a few weeks/months.

in the last week she has been cutting her eye teeth and apart from the runny nose everything else in her seems normal - a little grizzly during the day but nothing major, 3 nights in a row last week she just went ballistic - basically what has been happening of late is she could be quite happy playing then i say okay lani 5mins then we change your nappy and we will have a story - she growls at me and goes off lol - after the 5mins i go and grab her and say come on nappy time for you, then we are having a story well she just kicks and screams and yells no no no, i struggle get the nappy changed - she has a cuddle and finishes her bottle whilst i read her a story - all good - she says her goodnights to everyone and blows kisses, we go in her room and get her dummies out of the drawer - she goes to her cot and gets in and says nigh nigh mummy blows me a kiss and i say my goodnights to her - i leave the room quiet not a sound then around 5mins later it starts - like she is angry, first night it happened i thought maybe her teeth are hurting - i ask her, and she put her fingers in her mouth were it hurt and gave me back her dummies (she gives me her 2 dummies after she wakes up from her sleeps and we put them in the drawer) i tell her no you can have the dummy it is time for bed - she just stands and stamps her feet, the first night i got her up and gave her a cuddle and then put her back she just grizzled then started screaming 10mins later - i left her and didn't go in and found after 5mins of screaming yelling - (hardly any tears) she goes to sleep. she did this for around 3 nights in a row, then the last 2 nights were back to normal happy and fine to go to bed (although she still yells and screams when i go to change the nappy b4 bed) i look in her mouth and yes she has a new tooth so i figure everything is okay - tonight well she started again, so i went in and explained it was time to go to bed (she had been up since 2.30pm and it was 8pm by now) well she wouldn't have a bar of it - wouldn't have the dummy she just threw it in her cot and she just stood there screaming, so i said goodnight mummy loves you and left her screaming - after about probably 5 mins she stopped screaming then every so often she would start up again - in around 1/2 hr she was asleep.

now i feel bad i didn't go back in there but it seems to me she is "testing" me - she is a smart cookie and i feel she is putting it on but doesn't help that i feel guilty about not going in there to comfort her - but i know if i did go in that it would just prolong the issue - even if i got her up and gave her a cuddle then put her back down she would have protested - hence it going on forever - my poor ds was trying to go to sleep (exhausted after first full day of school) and he just couldn't.

what do you think could be up with her (are my intuitions right would/could she be trying it on for me) am i handling it the right way - and have others gone through this and if you have how did you handle it.

thanks - and soooooooo sorry for the epic