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My brother and I are 14 months apart. We've always been super close - he's 21, I'm 22 and we've been best friends for years. That being said, we have very similar personalities and interests, so of course that helps. Our younger sister is 6 years younger than me. She was left out, not intentionally, for years simply because of the huge age gap, but, got more one on one time with parents, whereas bro & I didn't really have one on one. Now that she is 16, we're obviously not at the same stages in life, but she's developing as an adult and we are able to do more stuff with her.
DH also has 2 siblings, younger brother and older sister. They're all 18 months apart, and the oldest (sister) got left out. So he wants 4 kids. I'm open to 4. We are planning to have our second in quick succession of the first. For me, if we have a boy and girl I will happily stop. If we have two of the same sex however, once they're in school I would be open to trying for third, with the fourth also in quick succession, with they hope 1&2, and 3&4 will be close.
I don't want to depend on the eldest looking after the youngest though. My parents did that, expected bro and I to constantly entertain our sister so she wasn't left out. It was frustrating, two pre-teens don't want to be playing baby games with a kindy aged child, dragging her along to our friends houses etc. It would have been way better if she had a sibling close to her age to play with.
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My kids are 4y6months apart. I don't know if I could have handled 2 in nappies at the same time. Lol.
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Well my two are 1year 11m & 2weeks apart!! Can be trying at times but I wouldnt change it!! Rhys was quite independent when Harri was born ie. Feeding himself and happy to play by himself. He wasnt toilet trained by then but by 2.5 he was so only a couple of months of two in nappies. Harri was a easy baby tho so it didnt seem like such a nightmare like I thought it would be.
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I only have 1 child, but I can coment on my siblings. I am the youngest of
4, my eldest brother is 12.5 yrs older, 2nd eldest, 11 yrs older, and my sister is 8 years older.
When I was growing up it was great in one way, but annoying in another.
I was lucky that my brothers and sister tolerated playing with me as often as they did :lol: but it was also good in the sense that it was kind of like I was an only child, as my brothers and sister weren't home that often (school, work, social life, etc) and used to buy me presents for as and bday.
But I didn't always have people to play with ITMS, which is what I wanted, I remember always asking my mum for a brother or sister, but never got one. Lol.
But as I got older, I've started getting closer to my siblings and I love that they are so much older! They've been able to give me advice, help out when I need it, and be there for me just in general.
Long story short, there will always be ins and outs to each age gap, but it also largely depends on personality of each child too :) what works with some, doesnt with others :)
Sent from the mobile world of iPhones - while no doubt i should be elsewhere!
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There will be 20mths between DD & #2. I'm scared!!
DH & his brother are 12mths & 11 days apart and although they were closing as children, they are soooo not now. I'm an only child.
