Any second time TCCers nervous about trying?

[Ladylove]

DD took over 18 months to conceive (naturally in the end despite the time) and I've been thinking about when to try for number two. I'm nervous though that number two will take as long if not longer than number one and I don't want to go through the trauma of long term TCC again. Any success stories to cheer me up?

[jellybean88]

Ds took 12 months last time but dh and I decided we didn't want to do the charting or opks or timed dtd because it was too stressful so we just dtd whenever we felt like it and technically weren't ttc we just weren't preventing although sometimes I would dtd on purpose when I noticed ewcm lol old habits die hard it only took 4 months and was much more relaxing

[Ladylove]

That's the way I want to do it too this time around. Actually the desire to even think about another baby stemmed from my libido FINALLY returning since DD's birth.

[Lily Dust]

DD took 5 years and 11 rounds of assisted conception (IUI and IVF) and still no baby. She was conceived naturally after all that in between cycles. #2 conceived first month. Needless to say my jaw went a little like this......

[Heaven]

12 months to conceive DD1. First try for DD2

[PumpkinZulu]

DD1 took 20 months to conceive. DD2 was an accident, first and only opportunity she snuck in.

[FabFiona]

2 years for #1. #2 was an accident, conceived when DS1 was 10 months.

[forshelby]

I'm the opposite. Only 2 cycles to conceive DS and 7 months for the one currently baking.

I think anyone going for their 2nd or subsequent is always nervous because we know what we're in for.

[juniper76]

It took 3.5 years and way too many medical cycles to get DD. We were blown away when we got a natural BFP only 5 months after AF returned, but then gutted when we were told it was a mm/c. It has now been a year since the d&c and nada, so not all of us get it easier TTC#2... We are trying to come to terms with the horribly high probability that DD will be an only child.

[Ladylove]

Oh wow lots of great stories! Juniper I hope you can take heart from them too... God it's hard sometimes isn't it.

[Rosey]

I think about this a lot myself Ladylove.

[Rosey]

I think about this a lot myself Ladylove. It was two and a half years for DD. It makes me want to start TTC now incase it takes that long again, but scared because we're not ready now if it happens immediately. Hope your TTC journey #2 is short lives when the time comes.

[Ladylove]

Yours too Rosey.

[TickToc]

I can relate - my ex hubby and I conceived DD without trying (she'll be 12 in March) but afterwards I had a M/C Feb '03 (12.5wks) and then an ectopic Aug '03 (9wks) - fast forward to this year and I have a new loving and supportive partner and we've recently decided that this is our year to give it a go As of today I'm no longer taking the pill and have been taking elevit with iodine since Dec '12 - all going well we will be actively TTC in April. But I'm 10yrs older than I was when I last TTC so I'm very nervous I guess we just have to hope for the best and see what happens.

[Beautiful Disaster]

I think anyone going for their 2nd or subsequent is always nervous because we know what we're in for.

I think this is what is scaring me and making me so undecided

[LysnDan]

One minute im excited to TTC, the next im nervous and scared!

Scared to have to use fertility meds to get another bfp, and scared that pregnancy will be like my last and end up with a premmie yet again.

But here we are... Not really trying at the moment... But haven't been entirely preventing either!

Ideally we were meant to start TTC in March. But I think I have stuffed that idea up lol

Best of luck Ladylove in whatever you decide to do. Xx

[Mrs P]

3.5 yrs for DD, including about 18 mths or so assisted conception. #2 was a different story, it was our second FET so only took about 3 mths. But obviously this time round we knew we needed IVF and we also had embryos frozen so didn't have to do a stim cycle thankfully.
I think once you've been a LTTTCer you will always have that same mentality - at least that's how it is for me.

[Ladylove]

Thanks for sharing your stories everyone. If I'm completely honest we 'sort of' are already TCC in the sense that babymaking is not the first priority but we are enjoying reconnecting but also thinking about making a companion for DD. I guess I'm nervous that we will lose that a few cycles into TCC if things look to be moving slowly again and life will become an endless chain of TWWs.

BUT it's not like that now so I should stop forward-projecting so intensely!

Thanks again lovely ladies.