Hi there,

I am 34 years going on 35. My partner has had one child with another person, then a vasectomy about 2 years ago. When we first got together I wasn't so sure about kids...never have been. Now, I want to do some investigation before I close the book on having kids forever (on my 35th bday).

He is ok with me wanting to have another child, not thrilled, but willing to talk about it however, he does not want to "undo" his vasectomy.

I have been researching online about IVF...wondering, is that the only way? The threads on this aren't the most clear and I guess what I'm really wanting to hear about is if any of you ladies out there are going through this..what the first steps are etc...do you think there is any chance in hell of conceiving "naturally" after a vasectomy?

Unfortunately, I don't think I'm willing to go through the surgical aspect of it, it just seems like a complete chore and would really be tough on our relationship. I'm willing to be "happy enough" as we are....possibly look at adoption...I don't know. I'm really just trying to find a bit of feminine support in this.

I'm giving myself till my birthday to keep this in my life or leave it behind forever. Not knowing or wondering is starting to drive me nuts.

Thanks so much ladies.