DH and I have good friends who have been married for about 15 or 16 years. They tried to conceive for a long time, and finally gave up. From what they've said, I understand there is a male fertility issue. They have adopted three beautiful children, and are busy, and happy. She is now 39, and he is a couple years older.
I've been hearing more and more lately about the impact of diet on fertility, especially male fertility, and I've been wondering if I should bring it to their attention, gently. I know he has a pretty terrible diet. Loves junk food, pop, etc.
What do you think? Would I just be adding to his guilt/sadness, increasing their longing and worry about TTC, bringing up old pain and problems, maybe needlessly? One part of me is saying "Let it be! - they've probably heard it themselves, and they have a happy, full, life now - don't bring it up again! It's not your business. Besides, their chances of conceiving are getting slim at this age anyways." And the other part of me is saying "Give them the information, and let THEM decide what to do with it. Maybe they'd like to leave it, but maybe they'd want to try one more time. It's their decision."
What do you think? Would you want to be told?