when to give up hope?

[misty]

I am just wondering at what stage I should 'give up' on this cycle. As far as I can guess (and it is a guess because I have just gotten af back and she has only visited the once since have DS 11months ago - I am also still breastfeeding), I am about 7 days overdue to receive af. All the HPT's I have done have been negative.

I guess I am just not sure if I should still be holding out hope until af does show up, or if I should maybe accept that things still aren't working down there properly, and that I am not pregnant.

In another thread, someone posted that implantation can occurr up to 12 days post ovulation. my real problem is I don't know when (or if) I even ovulated.

I guess this is more a vent then anything. but thanks for listening.

[DaintreeDream]

Hi Misty,

I cannot really offer and advise but I would like to offer a , I too am TTC whilst my AF has not retured since the birth of DD and I am breastfeeding (expressing actually), it is so frustrating not knowing when you are ovulating. I just keep doing the BD and test once a month. Maybe you could just keep checking once a week to see if you are pg this time round and keep doing the BD in the meantime.

Have you tried tracking your temp, cervix position, CM etc as a way of knowing when you are ovulating? I personally don't, I find it all too hard Although I have checked my position today and it is very high... mmm am I ovulating or pg... too confusing for me!

Good Luck with your TTC journey.

Deanne.

[satya]

I'd suggest temping. If your temp was up higher than usual and your AF was overdue you could be pretty sure you were pregnant before even testing.

[~Trish~]

Your cycles can take a while to regulate after having a bub and b'feeding. I got my first AF back when DS2 was 6 months old and I didn't get another AF for 45 days (I used to have a 28 day cycle), I have not had a regular cycle since either!

Good luck

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Similarly to Trish I got AF back at 5 weeks PP... then somethingg like 8, 12, 24 and now we're coming up on another 8 weeks with no AF. I'm still not pregnant despite her returning 10 days after i finished PP bleeding.
Sorry to say but I wouldnt hold your breath. Even when AF is back BFing can prevent implantation. *sigh*

[misty]

Thanks for the replies, AF has returned - which is a relief, because now I can TTC again this cycle. I am planning on using opk's to see if I am even ovulating.

If this cycle doesn't work out I have decided that I am going to wean DS (I would probably do this soon anyway as he is a year old on NOV 7th, and I don't think I would bf much longer then that).