Thanks hun, just worried it's too much like asking her to do chores IYKWIM... but it wont be there as a you MUST do these things but a "good girl you fed the fish" kind of thing

The other thing is i know if DD1 has 1 then DD2 is going to want one aswell, is it wrong for a 19mth old to have a 'helpers chart'... think thats what i'll call it.