Maybe look at your list and look at the priorty things first. Your linen really closet won't need cleaning/tidying once a month. If you give it one really good clean out/tidy up and then put things away neatly as you go then you really only need to worry about it every 6 months or so. I tidied mine when I was pg with DS2 (I was a nesting freak LOL) and it's only now 2 years later that I think "hmmm...I really should tidy it up again". That's because I put things away tidily as I went so it never really got out of control again.

Can you set yourself a goal of having the rare jobs done over the next month? Usually if you do one really BIG tidy up/clean of all the things you don't normally get around to, it can keep you going for quite a few months. Then it all doesn't get on top of you.

IKWYM about feeling depressed when things start getting messy, and you know it's not just a quick tidy up job. I try and set myself goals of a room at a time. This week I decluttered our bedroom, last week I cleaned out our garage, the week before I did my boy's rooms. Once I've worked through each room, it's easier to keep the house in a tidy state and I don't really need to do big jobs like that again for another 6 months or so.

Don't get me wrong, my house is NOT perfect LOL! In fact I'm trying to keep my eyes shut atm so I don't look at the state of my floor LOL!!

Good luck, I hope you can find a way that works for you