So, after many long discussions, we finally feel that we are in the right place to begin an egg donor cycle for an infertile couple.
Our boys are still such babies & after the really quite traumatic birth at 28 weeks of our oldest, having Sal on bed rest for 11 weeks with our youngest until he was born at 34 weeks & all of the emotional impact of that, we aren't ready to TTC with her remaining embryo's just yet.
Because our babies are genetically hers & my uterus will be used to carry ( hopefully ) one of the embryos's on ice left over from the last cycle, my eggs won't be needed to complete our family.
Life is a cycle, to receive I believe you need to also give. Our family was made possible by an anonymous sperm donor so if I can pass on my eggs to enable someone to have their family, I would feel like we have given the Universe something back.
So, we answered an ad in Melbourne's Child last week! And got a really great reply, we are going to meet them in a couple of weeks & if they like us, we will start the process officially!
We are sooooo excited to finally be doing this, crossing fingers it all works & they get their beautiful healthy baby at the end of it.
So, this thread is part Woo Hoo & part Any Advice for potential egg donors? Can anyone give us some insight into this journey? We did three cycles of IVF with my DW to get our boys so have a reasonable idea about the practicalities of hormones & needles & egg collection but what else can we expect? What were your experiences?
I have done an egg donation and it was pretty simple. I only felt a little sore after the egg pickup but that didn't last very long at all. Good luck on your journey and I hope your wonderful gift is much appreciated
If you want to know anything in particular PM me and I'll try to remember what happened - damn baby brain lol
Last edited by KimB; August 9th, 2011 at 02:10 PM.
Wow what a beautiful thing you are doing. It's so amazing to think you'll be giving someone the most precious gift in the world.
I'm sorry I don't have any advice but I just couldn't read and not reply! Good luck with it all
Super excited but there is still a long way to go. Meeting up with the couple in 3 weeks, then blood tests, counselling etc before starting the cycle. It seems like such a long time until they have a baby in their arms, but must remember they are probably closer today than they were two weeks ago when they didn't know if they would even get a donor.
Just echoing the other posts and think it's such a beautiful thing you are doing! It's so sad when people struggle for the dream of parenthood, and you are right, although it will be a long process, they are closer now than they were before. It just makes my heart melt.. They must be so excited at even the prospect
How cool Sally.
I know that there is a WHOLE lot of counselling to get through for you both and for them both. You already know about the drugs and the needles and the fun that comes with IVF. To think that you are prepared to go through that whole rollercoaster as a gift to another family is amazing. Well done to you guys xx I'm pretty sure that it will be equally as emotional a journey for you.
Have you checked out the "egg donors" thread here?. I see it doesn't get used much these days. Perhaps you can start a revival!?
I am on my 2ww with a donor egg embryo. Words will never be enough to describe the gift you are giving your recipients. On behalf of egg recipients I'd like to acknowledge your and your wife's loving kindness. If nothing else comes from this, you have given them hope and hope is a glorious feeling. What a beautiful pair of women!
I can't speak for our donor, but what we all discovered was that she did have an interest in how things were going with the embryos. She did feel attached to them in a way, although she no longer saw them as hers; she felt some responsibility and no doubt although we didn't discuss it, she felt a twinge of sadness when the rest didn't make it. I guess that's all I can share as I am on the "wrong" side of things to have true insight.
Thank you both again for wanting to do this, it's couples like you that make people like me have hope when there was none.
I hope that we make a baby for them, that's all we want & I would feel horrible if we weren't able to make any embryo's for them. But you're right, at least we are trying to help them make a family & that's pretty powerful.
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So very, very excited!
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