Just as a bit of background...sold a pair of horse riding jodhpurs on ebay a few weeks ago..my listing clearly stated payment (or at the very least contact) was to be made within 3 days of the end of the auction which I think is pretty fair. I mean if you can't pay in that time, fine but at least send me a message to let me know.

So the item sold, 3 days later no payment, no contact. After 4 days I sent them a message asking them to please pay or contact me to let me know when they were going to pay, as the listing stated 3 days. A few days later no response so I sent another message.
About 8 or 9 days after it ended I still hadn't heard anything from the buyer so filed an unpaid item dispute through Ebay, and the buyer then has 4 days to respond and pay for the item. Finally on the 5th day they paid, but still didn't send me a message or anything to apologise/explain. Fine, at least I have the money for it now... I think they paid on a Wednesday, I waited until the following Monday to send it..being a bit spiteful I thought they took long enough to pay, I'll take long enough to post...

They still haven't left feedback and I haven't left feedback for them either. I keep wondering if maybe they are waiting for me to do it first. I know you can't leave negative feedback for a buyer, but I want to say something along the lines of 'slow to pay, received no communication'. I just don't want to get negative feedback in return from them (I don't know what it would be about as far as I'm concerned I tried to contact them a number of times and heard nothing from them so I acted in my best interests). I guess I'm wondering should I wait and see what they say first before leaving my feedback, or give them feedback anyway and it will just be too bad whatever they say. First time I have ever had an experience like this on Ebay!