I'd love to know what you all think I should do...

Background:

My mum did EC with me, only it didn't have a name. It was just what her mum showed her cos they didn't have nappies (neither sposies nor cloth, I was born in 3rd world). So... they trained me together and I never wore a nappy. I was pretty shocked when my mum admitted that she'd never changed a nappy until DD was born and she told me how I was trained. Even I'd changed nappies before DD was born.

Today:

DD has just started solids and poos have become solid-ish. Sort of toothpaste consistency. ANyway, it seems to really upset her and she has to strain, so I know when she's going to do a poo. Tonight I caught her full poo in the loo (I sat on the loo and put her on my lap between my legs, DH was pretty turned off and also impressed).

I think nappies are great and use sposies (where I live I'd forever be waiting for towelling to dry). But ever since DD started solid poos, I think she's really uncomfortable pooing, and afterwards if I leave her in a poo-ey nappy for even 5 mins. And I think it smells gross and would rather just get it into the loo if I can. I've had to clean one outfit smeared in solid smelly poo and hope it is my last.

Question:

I want to leave her in nappies and not toilet train until she is a toddler and speaking to me. But if I can catch a poo every so often in the loo, I want to. To sav eher the discomfort and me the cleaning.

My mum says not to start that yet as we are coming to Sydney (laong haul flight) in 4 weeks, and if I start catching poos, she won't poo in her nappy. And will hold on and get constipated. I believe what she says and have loads of faith in her experience. But I also wanted to know what you all think here.

Do you think that if I try to catch poos when at home, that she won't poo in her nappy when we are out? And if we are travelling, will that throw her right off? If I wait, she may get more used to the idea of having a pooey nappy? Or if I do try to catch the poos, am I teaching her that her distress is real and poos are to be feared (cos when I think she's going to do one, it's a race to get her clothes and nappies off and onto the loo, so maybe a little bit energetic when I could be hugging her instead).

Thanks in advance
(I'm so excited to catch a full poo in the loo! Had to share. TMI: it was tricolore... carrot, avocado and spinach!).