DH and I have been talking recently about how we have different expectations of our kids when it comes to education.

See, Lindsay is very bright and is going great guns academically - better than we could have hoped - but we always knew that he would because of his personality which is very analytical and he thinks outside the square and learning just comes easily to him.

Erin on the other hand has a totally different personality - she is more dreamy and imaginative and loves to be creative and sing and dance. She is also very interested in music and singing. So when she goes to school we don't expect her to do as well as Lindsay academically because of their personality differences. Not that we think she will struggle, because she is still a bright little girl, but we think she will excel in different areas to Lindsay. Like we think she will lean towards music programs and learning an instrument and the creative arts and that sort of thing.

So my question was do you think that we are not being fair to her by not expecting the same things of her? Naturally we encourage them to be happy and to try their best, but when she starts school we just don't expect the same results as Lindsay. But on the other hand, we don't want her to feel she has to be in his shadow and try to be like him if she isn't.