Yes my kids need to ask. The answer is generally yes anyway depending on how close it is to a main meal, but if they don't ask and help themselves then I won't know what they need. I am not one to check cupboards LOL I go from memory.
same here.... I want to know how often DSD is eating as well, cause then I know if she hasn't been eating enough at her main meal to get her through the day.... fruit is always okay, though even that much fruit is a lot of natural sugar to be eating through....

we always had to ask as kids - until we were teenagers pretty much, and even then if it was something special or different in the fridge we still asked - but I recall going through whole bags of grapes in a day - and even now, some fruit always tastes better the same day!!