i have learnt that you cant please everyone especially when it comes to christmas, easter and other such holidays. sometimes you need to be selfish and say no we are doing our own thing this yr instead of tryin to run around and see everyone in the one day.

I have also realised how little DH does around the house lol.

Also you realise who your real friends are, who will stick around or will book child friendly things to do when you go out or child proof their house better then your own is.