So long story cut short, my ex has now decided he wants nothing to do with the unborn baby (already blaming it for ruining his life, wishing us dead etc)
So my biggest questions are:
1. IF I was to name him on the birth certificate, does he have to sign the form or can I submit with just my signature?
2. IF he denies the child is his, can I still apply to CSA for child support and then they request DNA test, or is this something he or I need to sort out?
3. Do I have to use his last name for the child (I honestly prefer his over mine but then he has stated he wants nothing to do with us, so this might be weird)
4. I already receiving Parenting Payment, FTB, and Carers allowance for DD, will him denying parentage or signing birth cert affect any of this.
I have done some research online, but had no help whatsoever from CSA or Centrelink, and I cant find anything in regards to the Birth Certificate. I am not denying him access to the baby, he just wants us both gone so not sure how far I should go to ensure he has legal rights down the track
ETA - he has also demanded I get a termination as its not what he wants right now and believes he cant emotionally, mentally or financially support a child
1. He doesn't have to sign the birth certificate. If he wants to dispute it he will need to get a DNA test done.
2. You just need to give his details to CSA. They will deal with him for you. If he disputes paternity he has to do a DNA test.
3. You can use any last name you like. Your name, his name, a name you happen to like that you found in the phone book. One of my friends has used a traditional Arabic naming whereby his children's family name is Ibn W. Ibn meaning son of.
4. His attitude will not affect your payments. Once child support kicks in that might change the amount because it will be income for you.
I think that you should be more concerned about protecting your child's rights and entitlements and yours too rather than your Ex's. If he wants to be a deadbeat Dad there's no way you can protect him from his own stupidity and deadbeatness.
I can't quite remember anything about the first and last few questions, but as for baby's name, you can make it anything you want. You can even make one up if you want! Not advisable, of course, but just trying to prove my point
I'm pretty sure you can leave the father's name off the birth certificate, but you wouldn't get any child support from him if you did that. I'm not 100% sure of that point though, so someone else might be better to listen to
Sorry your ex is being a not-very-nice-person (sometimes I wish we could swear here )
I would consider the impact of the surname you choose on your child. Why would you give her the name of a man who wants nothing to do with her? That seems a bit wrong.
Name him on the birth certificate and then apply for child support through the necessary channels.
You can still claim child support without naming him on the birth certificate- my DH had a one night stand at 18 that resulted in his son. The mother chose to not name him on the birth certificate but my DH has been paying child support since he was born and his son is 18 this year. He was asked to sign a stat dec to accept paternity which he did but if he had of refused he would have been made to take a paternity test
DD has her fathers last name, so hers is different to mine anyway.
Definitely lots to think about - I don't think it's right what he's doing and I guess I want myself covered should he pull his finger out in however many years to come!
Not sure what state you are in but in WA he will need to sign the birth certificate or you will have to provide a valid reason a s to why the father has not signed. You can give your bub what ever last name you w3ant but if you have another child to the same father both bubs have to have the same last name. i hope he sorts his stuff out for you
Ex has ditched us - HELP needed
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