Thought I would have a little vent. So to cut a dramatic and lonnngggg story short my parents and my hubby have not got on for the entire time we have been married. Now this has been a constant battle and so uncomfortable.
My mother is a bit of a cow, actually I have issues with her besides her honestly hating my hubby so yes fair to say but the truth will set you free right?
My mum pretty much has nothing really to do with me anymore and it hurts and is so hard. I am 24 years old and I miss a mum that dosen't exist. Now that my hubby and I are TTC, it has hit me closer to home and I even tried to reach out to her recently without any success.
It makes me sad because I can't even tell her that we are trying because she honestly made it clear that she dosen't want me to have children with the man I love cos she disapproves....(No reason either...trust me) and all she ever talks about is my brother and his new wife having a baby and how happy she is when they do it.
It really hurts and she knows this as I have told her how I feel. So as I typed before my hubby thinks my mother is the devil and has said there is no way he wants her near our kids. Very complicated indeed. It's strange though, even though she has hurt me then more words can say, I still love her and miss her. Weird huh?
I just pray that I will be a better mummy then her and not ever give my kids the issues she has put on me over the years. I know lots of other ladies out there haven't got mothers or mother figures in their lives for certain reasons but I just hope that I can fill in that painful void and be the loving mum I always dreamed off.
Your Mum seems to have had a hard time getting over you marrying young? You would have just been 18 right? & Dh about 23/4?
She probably disapproves because she thinks you were (possibly still) too young to get married. But man, its been 7 years you would think she would realise all she is doing my not getting over it is pushing you away.
I would just distance yourself & get on with your life. Don't worry about trying to get her approval. You have your own family now & as much as she might not like it, its obviously working.
It sounds like a really tough situation. The way I see things is, DH and I are our family now, and obviously DD has come along too - it's the three of us. And while it's lovely to have extended family, you don't really NEED them in your wee circle of trust. It's easy for me to say that though, as DH and I live all the way round the world from our families - so that might not be the case for everyone.
I can honestly say I know how your husband feels, I've been with my husband for 10 years and I can't stand his parents and they dislike me and our children all for no reason at all.
It's really hard on my husband, he's sick of their crap to but he feels he has to "play nice" when they can be bothered contacting him, I really wish he would tell them to bugger off!
It's an awful situation for anyone to be in and I'm sorry you have to deal with it
I can also understand the not being able to tell your mother about TTC, my mum hates the idea of me having more but thats just tough, I've found it easier not to tell her then be disappointed by her reaction.
My hubby thinks my mother is the Devil!
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I'm sorry your mother is like that, hopefully she'll come round one day.
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