Would you be doing the same thing or am I too harsh?

[Arimeh]

DS is always told to stay away from the computer (hangs off the wall on the end of the couch) and its not usually too much of an effort to get him to go away when you tell him to. So he KNOWS he is not allowed to play around it, or the table next to it.

So today, I was dealing with a horrid nappy of Miss M - elbow deep in crap so to speak - and he tips half a jug of water over our hard drive (our back up) which was sitting on the table as we did a back up last night.

I was sooooooooooooo angry - I saw red. I told him to get to his bedroom. Which he didn't (no surprise, he rarely obeys me) and he just sat there. Meanwhile, I finish up with what I'm doing, dump her in her cot, grab him and take him to his bedroom. So both kids are screaming at me (she's wayyyy overtired) and I go to deal with her. I get her to sleep and come out to clean up cos I didn't want electrical stuff sitting in a whole heap of water for too long.

So I cleaned up - he's still screaming - so I ask him to say sorry. He refuses to. Now, I now he CAN say sorry - he speaks in almost FULL sentences ffs, so I know he can do it. I take his bear, his stuffed dog and his dummy off him.

45 minutes later he FINALLY calms down - still won't say sorry.

I'm holding the doggy and dummy for ransom to get my "Sorry"

So he's still upset (and tired, but won't sleep without doggy and dummy). And I'm a stubborn cow so I'm inclined not to give in to him, because he's 26 months old, he can say "sorry" but refuses to, and he needs to learn that if you do something bad, you have to say sorry instead of just giggling and running off.

I don't even know if the hard drive is stuffed or not.

Soooo.. would you be giving the puppy back or not? (I'm actually thinking it could be a good time to chuck away the dummy! lol)

If I'm being too harsh, don't be afraid to say - all opinions are welcome (mainly cos I know how stubborn I am)

[Beatrix]

umm i wouldnt give them back


but i would go in and sit with him... tell him why.. in simple terms and just state

you know not to do ..... and until you tell mummy you are sorry for upsetting her then mummy will hold onto your items..

[*Efjay*]

hmm I agree now may be a good time to toss the dummy. IMO after this long he may not even know why he is so upset (water/computer) & mostly upset because you took the puppy & dumy away.
I would say go sit with him, or better yet bring him out & show him what he did, don't get angry with him again. Just say look what you did with the water, this is not a good thing to do. It might be broken now (if your not sure it is). I have your Puppy here & if you can say you are sorry you can have him back. Or maybe even settle for a cuddle. Be a little flexible, after all he is only 2. But I wouldn't hold out on the puppy for a sorry for too long.
If he asks for the dummy just say sorry mate, its broken like the computer. But here you go, here is pUppy.

Count to 10, I so know what it slike to find that sort of thing has gone on when you are tied up with another little one.

[skybie]

i do the same with DD's sheepie, lately she thinks it ok to swing it around and hit ppl with it, so it gets taken off her until she says sorry, normally takes a good half hour of her screaming hysterically bcoz ive got sheep and wont give it back

[Je$$_84]

This gave me flash backs from few nights ago... DS is obcessed with bubbles and is always in the pump soap and water trying to make what he thinks is bubble solution. After 5 times of me saying stop it and stop putting it on the computer table bang there goes a huge glass of water all over the printer... I know how u feel. what made it worse was i said "see what happens when you dont listen would you like me to spill water over your toys to which he proceeds to run his thomas the tank engine trains under water (he was supposed to be sittin gon his bed) when i busted him his reply was see i dont care if water gets on them....

He bnawled his eyes out when he realised it meant they wouldnt work anymore...

I dont think what you did was harsh. Its not too much to expect a sorry. I still struggle to get DS to apologise.. wish i had of been on it earlier.

HUGS. Hope your HD is ok

[ubba82]

I would go with Fionajill. What fantastic advice. It is along the lines of what I would do

[mrscricket]

I agree with FJ's advice. Puppy might comfort him and let you get a bit of peace too, and might be a great time to toss dummy too. Good luck x

[SugarDust]

I would do exactly what you have done if it were me in the situation!

Keep to your guns even through dummy out!

[feeb]

Oh hun sorry i had to laugh at you holding toys hostage!! thats something I would do

[Missy_Moo]

Realistically, he is at an age were he wants to push things to see how far he can get with you. He has to learn some how. Even though it seems harsh, and he is upset it's good that you're standing your ground to treach him...

Stay strong, you will be thankful in the long run that you did...