Have you thought about ear candling? They're a thin hollow stick that you put in your ear, light the end of them (the end that sticks out LOL) and they're meant to help clear the wax too. I think natural health places sell them and some beauty places do it too. Just a thought?
my hubby uses these and he swears by them.
when i was little i had lots of ear problems and mum used to syring my ears out all the time. it doesn't hurt but is just a bit weird. if the wax is hard then you often can't get it out. a few drops of olive oil for a few nights in the ear to soak helps that.