Thanks guys..

I actually know ALOT about this, i was actually trying to find someone else who has been through what i went through with DS's pregnancy. Maybe i was too vague in my OP.

When i was 6 weeks with DS i became ill, it was at first thought to be due to morning sickness etc, but it was extreme fatigue, i could not move from the couch and felt like i had a sever flu. I had bloods done at 7 weeks and the gp i saw said he saw nothing except my liver levels were slightly high but he didnt trigger.

I came good around 11 weeks...

At my 15 week midwife appt, i was talking to her about what happened and how i didnt believe what the GP thought about what i experience was right, she listened and then she looked over those results from the blood test at 7 weeks. She scared me as she went white and said hmmm.. ok i am going to do a blood test, i wont tell you what im testing for right now as i am hoping i am wrong... I went with it..

I got the test results when i was 20 weeks, she rang me.. she asked me to sit down.. and she went onto tell me that i had contracted the virus CMV with the first few weeks of pregnancy, and that due to the nature of the virus and what it can do to a fetus, if the mother contracts it in the first time during her pregnancy (especially in the first trimester), my care had to be transfered to Monash Medical centre. She went on to say she has made an appt for the following week, and i need to prepare that they may want to end the pregnancy.

As you can imagine, i was a COMPLETE mess. The timing couldnt have been worse either, as i got this phone call, 2 days after my fiance was crushed by a 150 tonne press machine at work. I was sitting outside the ICU unit at Royal Melbourne Hospital when i took her call....

So i went off to the appointment with the Monash specialist, they took me for a scan so they could make the decision of whether i should end the pregnancy or not.

Luckily, there were no calcification spots anywhere in his body, that they could see... the calcification spots is what they look for as it would tell them where the infection has gone in his body and that gives them an idea of the problems he would face. They also checked the size of his head and brain. Thankfully that too was ok.

If the mother contracts the virus during a pregnancy, for the first time and iin the 1st trimester, they generally (stats are) recommend you terminate the pregnancy. In america the rate is so high of how many pregnancies are terminated due to CMV.

If the above happens, the risk's are quite high that the baby would be born Blind, Deaf and mentally retarded.

We had to have scans (ultrasound) every 3 weeks for the remainder of the pregnancy, constantly checking the growth of his head and watching for calcification spots. He never showed any signs that he had congential CMV... but they wernt convinced.

I had to fight to birth at my orginal hospital, but because he hadnt showen any signs during all his scans i won, and was allowed to birth at my hospital. However, under strict conditions and the team there had to be trained how to deal with "infectious births" ( i hated that term)

So, anyway... we got through his birth and i got to hold him for a bit. Then he had to go to start all the testing, to test him for the CMV. He had the works, and it broke my heart and wa such a hard time. I had to have to stay in the room i laboured in, which are huge double size rooms, so i felt so bad... but facts were no one could share a room with me

All his tests came back negative... would you believe, with a 10-15% chance, WE were in that small margin. NEGATIVE.. all were negative!!!! My body took the full brunt of the infection, and passed by him...

It was explained to me that yes, when you have had CMV, you have it for life. It is a virus that stays dormant, and can flare up at any time. IF you have a flare up during a subsequent pregnancy, that baby too will need to be monitored throught the pregnancy, however, thier chance's are much better than those of a baby who's mother gets it in the first trimester, for the first time.

Guess i was looking to find if anyone had experienced this... sorry for being so vague!