I Want Just One Day

[UntoldAngel]

Where I'm not in pain! Really, is it too much to ask for?

I struggled today to pick my child up off the floor. I can't carry him on my left side for too long or my arm goes 'dead' and is heavy and useless. I can't lay on the floor with him for too long or I struggle to get back up. Makes me feel like a great parent. Not to mention the housework that makes it worse.

I can't get comfortable and I can't get to sleep because of the pain I'm in. No sleep = fatigue + stress = more pain

Please, just one day

[Taurean]

That sounds awful!! Is there a reason for your pain? Pre-existing illness or post pregnancy related?

[UntoldAngel]

Pre-existing 9years now of constant pain. Before it was somewhat bearable because it was only me to look after, but now it makes it all the more harder
Really strict exercise and stretching regime works to alleviate it to a 4/10 rating but it is soo hard sometimes

[UsPlus2]

So sorry to hear you are in so much pain. HOpe tomorrow is a better day

[starangelk]

I hope tomorrow is a better day too Xx

[AnyDream]

Untold Angel, it might be worth seeing a pain specialist...even though this is something you may already have done, sometimes it's worth having a fresh assessment to see if there is another treatment strategy available.

Also, acupuncture is very good for some chronic pain conditions, might be something to consider. I know how harrowing and wearing it can be to be in pain, but I also believe in the body's ability to restore itself to a state of wellbeing...with a little help. I hope you can get some relief short term and some improvement longer term.

[Mother Goose]

hon. I understand. I have a back injury that really interferes with life at times.

Hang in there

[UntoldAngel]

Thanks MG, it can be really depressing sometimes trying to get on with life when you are in soo much pain. Thankfully though it didn't play up too much with my pregnancy, which I was very grateful for.

Not being able to hang the washing, or vacuum or make the beds can be annoying, but not being able to pick up your bub and give them a cuddle when they need it because you physically can't do it without crying in pain.... THAT SUCKS!

[Mother Goose]

Absolutely is does Belle! But focus on what you CAN do. Also, you may not be able to pick him up, but try to find other ways of dealing with the situation. I can't lift my DD at all (well, I'm not suppose to!) so I find ways around it. She is older than your DS but even when she was younger we had things we'd do. I'd lean over her on the floor and kiss her, I'd tickle her with my hair; now she crawls into my lap and gets her hugs that way. If we're out, I just plonk on the floor and she climbs in.

Hang in the hon, focus on the positives.

MG

[AngelPants]

GBH honey that really does suck, not being able to do things can make u feel really useless but not being able to snuggle parker!! that truely does suck. i think it would be worthwile looking at whether there are any new treatments or management strategies that are available now?
hope u get some rest and snuggles soon xxoo

[AnyDream]

Untold, you might need to do a bit of research because there *will* be other specialists - you may just have to travel a little further...let your GP do some of the homework for you (if you have a GP you trust, if not find one of them first!!!) I've had loads of medical treatment over the last couple of years and there is a massive difference between some doctors and other doctors, and the magic ingredient is care and concern. Telling you you "should" have no pain tells me the wally you saw had no further interest in helping you. That's not really good enough. Plus, don't underestimate the degree to which medical science has come along in the few years since then, sometimes it could even be something simple like changing the way your meds are combined can make a huge difference. Never ever give up hope!