For the most part, these things will be discussed as the need arrises. Sometimes you just can't put a specific time line on it.

1. Shaving / Waxing
Ideally I'd prefer my girls to not shave at all. Unless they have significant body hair that is affecting their confidence I'd like to think I'm raising them to embrace their body hair and not conform to the patriachial view that body hair is unattractive. If I had my time again I would not shave at all. However I stopped shaving any pubic hair well over 18 months ago so all my kids see a vagina that is as nature intended it to be and not some p.ornified-pre pubescent vagina (much to DH's disgust ).

2. Periods
As the need arrises. DD1 is nearly 9 so I feel that the conversation isn't far away. She is getting more inquisitive about my pads and asking what they are for.

3. Makeup / Hair Coloring etc
I was never really into makeup so this may not even be an issue because I reckon some girls will model the behaviour they see in their home. I did colour my hair all sorts of colours though and if my girls want to colour their hair there isn't a lot I can do to support them, but I would encourage them to use makeup and hair colour that is organic to lessen the chemical burden on them.

4. Boys / Sex / Contraception.
Again this is an issue that will be talked about as the need arises. The talk about boys and sex is the easy part, the contraception part is the hard one. I really really don't want my girls taking hormonal BCP's. We are trying really hard to maintain an open relationship with them so they can always talk to me about it and hopefully they can come to me when they need to talk about contraception.

5. Bra's
I think DD1 is a long while off growing breasts. She is nearly 9 and showing no signs at all of developing breast buds. She could either be a late bloomer like her father and not go through puberty for a while or she could be like me and almost needing a bra overnight practically at 11. I don't think it's something that needs to be talked about as such, it's one of those things that when you need one, you go and get one.

Overall, in regards to 1 and 3 I would like to think that I'm raising girls who think that these things are not important as they are about looking good and most of looking good is doing it for the menz and fitting in with societies p.ornified ideal of how women should look. I think my daughters are beautiful as they are and don't need makeup or baby-bottom smooth legs to look good. I hate that the patriarchy is going to try to dictate to my children how women have to look and I will do everything I can to break that hold over them so they can think critically about why people use these products and what it means for them. That said however, I know I can only do so much and IMO bodily autonomy is everything and it's their body, their right. But I want them to do these things for them, and not because their friends are doing it or some magazine says it's the best way to catch a man. It might make me seem like a raving feminist, but these things are really important to me. It's hard enough being a female as it is let alone with the added pressure of conformity.