Janie, both my kids stopped coming in regularly when they stopped having feeds during the night. That's not to say that if they woke they wouldn't come in anymore because they did. Depending on the situation they have both gone through periods where they have come in every night for a couple of weeks, and then not for ages but this hasn't been until they were around the 12 month mark. Both my kids went into big beds by the time they were 1 for different reasons so again this gave us another option where I could always lay with them to settle them back to sleep or just get into bed with them too. There have been times where I have worried it's happening too much (them coming into bed) but it never lasts long. To this day it's still our family meeting place of a morning, as the kids wake in the morning they come into our bed for a snuggle until we all get up. HTH