The effect on mothers who had controlled crying as a baby

[meow]

I was wondering if anyone has any links to a study I recently heard about. My sister said she read about in her local paper but it wasn't referenced and I'd like to read more.

In essence the study found that mothers who were left to cry as a baby had increased anxiety when they heard their own baby cry.

Fingers crossed someone knows more about it! Thanks

[meow]

Just a little bump in case someone who knows this study hasn't seen this yet

[Visitor7]

I haven't heard anything like that. My mother used controlled crying with myself and my siblings, and I certainly don't have anxiety when any of my babies were to cry. I am a very relaxed person. Just thought I'd put my 2 cents worth in there

[meow]

Personally, I felt VERY anxious when my son cried as a young baby. I had to be holding him pretty much 24/7 and I think this was a really healing time for me to overcome my own disrupted attachment as an infant. So I'd love to see this study to find out more about what they studied and found.

As you say though Jodi, not everyone will feel this way. I remember watching that 1950's parenting guru lady, Claire someone, on Bringing up Baby and thinking that her ability to detatch from a baby's cry was possibly related to her own detatchment created from being raised to cry it out herself. So I can see how it could work both ways.

[ciara.e]

hi there

not sure if i can help you... my mum was the expert at control crying as she had 8 babies... but it didn't work for me... i still woke up at 2am every night up to about 3years old for a bottle LOL.

Even though she used the control crying technique on me, my personality was different and i probably continued to cry as i am an emotional person unlike my siblings. Saying this... I, nor my siblings seemed to have much problems ourselves with using this technique on our kids. I am actually the queen to tuning out a babies crying... it simply doesn't bother me. This however, could be a result of my learnings in areas of personal development and psychology at uni where i've hopefully gained at least a slightly better understanding of people (i'm certainly not judgemental of anything).

If you want to search studies, u should find a friend who is at uni and use their password to search their academic journals.. or try just a google search for academic journals in this area. Studies are published in academic journals normally.

I hope this has helped in some way, if not.. hopefully i have humoured you!

[Roryrory]

my mother was the queen of not letting a baby cry - I was rocked to sleep every night!!

but I HATED it when my babies even as much made a squeek!