What do you do when you have done it all?

[Cocolove]

I have 2 beautful daughters who are both very challenging they are disrespectful, they dont listen, they trash everything they get & I mean trash it things only last a couple months TOPS here I have tried rewards programs, taking toys off them, taking TV away from them, time out, I have literally tried every trick in the book without fail and they just dont get it. Cant they see what they are missing out on when all they need to do is settle down a bit and learn some respect.
My 5 year old has a pead app next month she is being assessed for Oppositional Defiant Disorder & mild autism she is the real out of control one she is extremly touchy and is always hurting kids.

Any advice.

TIA
xx

[Cocolove]

Mods i think this is in the wrong section. Please feel free to move

[Cocolove]

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[AliBaby]

I wish I could help you but have no idea. Hope someone can come in and give you some advice soon

[Gigi]

just some random ideas, based on posts i have read on similar topic

- dietary changes e.g the Failsafe Diet

- sensory changes
e.g providing more outdoor play if they don't get much of that currently

or less tv/DS/playstation screen time

or kids yoga, calming relaxation music

less toys (not as a punishment, more as a way of calming their environment)

putting away battery operated toys

just ideas

you mentioned possibility of the AUtism Spectrum.
have you googled to see if there is a Autism Spectrum support group/parents group in your state?
maybe they might have ideas of how to alter the environment of an child on the spectrum (e.g their home) to make it more suitable? i dunno, i am assuming, there might be things you can do - have nothing to base this on, just didn't want you to feel alone about this.

i know there ARE parents of kids on the SPectrum on this site, i'm sure they'll come along soon and give you firsthand advice. i'm sure they will when they're not so busy, i gather from their posts, parents of Spectrum children have VERY full on lives. (like you do too, i'll bet).

best of luck finding a solution

the best thing is, you're LOOKING for a solution, you want to make things better for your family. So you are in the right direction already.

It probably FEELS like you've tried everything already, cos you're prob exhausted, but i have hope THERE ARE more things to try, that other parents of SPectrum kids and paeds will be able to tell you about. SOme might suit your kids, some might not.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I would post, but Gigi said it all and more!

I often take DS's toys away - not as a punishment, but because he has too many and when he has too many then he just can't play and he hits and screams and is a nightmare. I also limit TV to when I need to cook dinner or when someone's ill for the same reason.