Thanks for your response nikola. This particular thread is a couple of years old now, but I am going through it again with another one of my children. It's part of a growth spurt, emotional and physical. Leaving them be means to them that I am not seeing them, they are acting out for a reason and finding out that reason is the hard part.
Leaving mine to be, makes them think that I don't care about them, they are acting out because they crave attention so leaving them be is not good.

depending on what your definition of the dark side is, well I go to my version regularly, haha
Sorry, I wasn't checking the date. The thread was on the first page in the forum and I just assumed it was newer. Ah, assumptions...

Anyway, I didn't think you should ignore her altogether. I said give her space. That doesn't mean dump her in the woods, leave home and let her manage on her own. Simply, when she's in one of her moods, don't make any requests, and don't let her have any of the benefits of you being her parent (unless absolutely necessary), but do acknowledge her. She'll need you eventually.

Anyway, like I said, I'm a father of a 1-year-old, so I don't know much about those later years, but that's what I would do.