My DD has been super obedient and is very well behaved. However, I now have a 5 year old who is going through a big independant streak - which is great, so she should!
But She is tantrumming again!! What's that all about?

It's the old "can I have..." "
No I'm sorry you can't because..."
"YES! I WANT IT NOW! and you are going to give it to me! (NOT!)
She actually even jumps up and down like a toddler! Or is sften she will be quite rude, in her replies.
I feel like we've been here, done this.

Same if I ask her do something, she will often do it, but be rude as she is doing it. Clarification - what I call rude is "Hmpph." crosses arms and says something like "you are a very colly lash mummy" ok. colly lash doesn't mean anything, but the tone is pretty clear from the way she speaks. She makes up words as she doesn't know any rude ones I suppose!

I know I'm very strict compared to a lot of parents but I think attitude is really really important? But I want to recognise that she is also frustrated at having to do something she doesn't want to do (gosh, know how she feels!)

What do other mums do?
HELP! Should I separate the obedience and the attitude? How should I help her deal with being frustrated?

For background, she is very obedient, ie. if we say "timeout, off to your room" she goes nearly straight away, just screaming on the way there which is fine as she's angry. Do I just ignore the throwing things (tantrumming again?)

Toddlers were way easier than this!!