Hi

my daughter is nearly 8 months old. The majority of the time she feeds to sleep. Until recently she was feeding to sleep for a morning and an afternoon sleep. (one sleep would be about 40 mins, the other about 1 hour and a half). Then she started sleeping one sleep, for about 2 hours. so her pattern was;

7.30am wake up for the day
11am to 1pm sleep
then no sleeps until bedtime at about 7.30pm

this was going great. I would never just put her down, I would wait till she was tired, then feed her and she would go asleep. no probems.Happy for the day.

But now I am finding she seems really tired and whingy so I go to put her down, but she won't fall asleep while feeding, but she seems very tired so I try and settle her in other ways but she gets upset and cries. So what I am wondering is, I'm I missing something!? is she just not tired, or is she around the age where they can try and stay awake even when they are very tired?

Yesterday she had less than an hour sleep all day. She went down for a sleep around 10am, woke up happy, then seemed tired in the afternoon so tried puttin her down, she protested so I ended up getting her back up. I'm I making a mistake doing this? as on a few occassions I have put her sleeping bag on, popped her in the cot and it she gets very upset and won't settle I just get her back up. I'm I sending her mix messages by saying if you don't fall asleep then its fine to just get up and play again?.

I have just put her down again now, at 11.30am, she was whingy and tired but didnt feed to sleep, she cried for about 5 minutes with me in the room and I just stroked her head to sleep. I don't want to be fighting her to sleep if shes not tired enough to sleep, but if shes just 'trying it on' then I will persist.


any advice? do I let her decide? get her up if she doesnt fall alseep after a while? or persist? If I could just let her decide and get her up everytime she doesnt fall asleep after a while I would, as I hate to see her upset. But I am just worried about it causing problems as she gets older, as a child (when she definately is tired but doesn't want to miss out).

what is a reasonable amount of daytime sleeping for an 8 month old? She goes to bed around 7.30pm and wakes up at 7.30am (with a quick feed at about 5.30am and sometimes another earlier). So she is getting a good sleep at night.