:) My MIL told me Attachment Parenting (in relation to us co-sleeping) breaks up marriages :wall:
:) My MIL told me Attachment Parenting (in relation to us co-sleeping) breaks up marriages :wall:
The other day a friend offered to babysit Jazz while Shel and I go out for my birthday. Jazz is being a bit funny with EBM at the moment so I declined because I didn't want her to get stressed about taking a bottle. My friend looked at me with wide eyes and said "you're STILL breastfeeding?!?! but shes past 6 weeks..." WTF? After my shock (been on BB too long lol!) I just started on WHO recommendations.
Though I have wanted to say "well, with formula you just don't know what you're feeding your baby..." (re chinas formula scandal) but I haven't yet...
PMSL!:
Cloth nappies...blah blah blah (I don't really listen).
- Sometimes disposables explode.
When people start going on about cloth nappies being more work I just give a really confused look and say "its not like I handwash them... one extra load every two days saves me $30 a week!"
And when people comment on having Jazz in her sling, or not letting her be alone (she is always in whatever room I am in, napping or not), and say "oh she has you wrapped around her finger" I just say (thanks to suggestions from BB!) "I wouldn't have it any other way!".
And last but not least, when someone says to me "crying is good for them" I just smile and say "love is better" :) :heartbeat:
Love your responses! GOLD!! :clap::
Now all I have to do is wait for someone to make those comments so i can use these comebacks LOL.
What do you girls say when someone says (with look of disgust on their face): "cloth nappies? how do you deal with smelly poos? Eek, I can't handle that". I go on about how easy it is easy with the LS etc. but I need a smarta$$ response!
I tell them that, in fact, it's illegal to throw poo in the bin and everyone is supposed to flush it down! This usually results in an expression of disgust mixed with embarrassment that they didn't know this. Then I tell them that DS has never been afraid to poo or see his poo in the potty/toilet because we've always dealt with it constructively and positively. THEN I tell them that DS is no longer in nappies and only has an overnight nappy because of overnight dreamfeeds...that gets them thinking!:
What do you girls say when someone says (with look of disgust on their face): "cloth nappies? how do you deal with smelly poos? Eek, I can't handle that".
Yep, I tell them this too, Mayaness, but they don't seem to care :( You can't make people care, can you?:
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Oh, maybe I should say: "Maybe I should report you to the authorities (the local council?)" :lol: EVIL!! haha!
No, they won't change their own habits, but at least you can have them feeling furtive the next time they go throw the poo in the bin. I just sit on my moral high horse for those few moments until they just leave the issue well enough alone. OR, I tell them that our trip to NZ when DS was 6 months old was paid for by NOT using sposies :P
You could add that in Europe they impose heavy fines on households that throw poo in the bin and boy, can they track them down!!
Lol cherry blossum, tell them you'd rather flush it than keep it (putting it in the kitchen bin while it stinks the house up)...
ETA: Then give them a weird look when you realise that they in fact 'keep' their babies poo, and say "oh well, each to their own I guess..." :lol:
Oooh, that's even better...especially coming into summer!
Yep, i've said with confused look "oh don't you flush the poo down the toilet?"
(that being said, before i switched to cloth i didn't actually know you were supposed too :redface:)
Leash i love your last one, i must remember to use that.
I get the 'ewww... you would have to touch poo' from people all the time.
I don't really care anymore. I love my cloth nappies... they are so funky. There are alot of older people who are SO surprised that there is anyone using cloth.
I used to wear Madeleine in a sling all the time, and used to get lots of comments, somne good and some bad... But unfortunately Madeleine has decided that she doesn't want to be worn anymore. She will let me do it occaisionally when we go out cause she doesn't really like her pram that much.
She likes her space. So we don't co-sleep anymore... :cry: I loved sleeping with her!
I love some of the comments... I'll have to remember them for next time!
I always laugh at this because it says it on the packet of the disposable napppies that you have to flush it not chuck it... something that other people say to me about this is "omg .. but dont you have to TOUCH POO???":
um, no... not really...
I do like the one about flushing it or keeping it. I must remember that one for next dumb person who makes a dumb comment.
My answer to the "OMG Poo!" comments is (as well as the it's illegal thing) "Don't you wipe your kid's butt? I'm alot closer to the poo when cleaning him up then when I roll the poo from the nappy into the loo" :lol:
So what do these people do with their own poo? Surely they flush and wipe that? How is wiping your baby that much different from wiping yourself? OK, someone else, but you're still cleaning up poo. And don't you wash your hands every nappy change anyway? At least my nappies are disposed of near the sink.
FWIW, the amount of people who tell me DS is happy and snug in the carrier and that it's the only way to travel... I have had very few negative comments. The funniest comment was "is he just inside your top?" - yes, I put a baby inside my t-shirt before I go out and hope he clings on for dear life.
I was still BFing when i used cloth (sadly my cloth nappying ended at 5 months when DD outgrew size "small" and i discovered XP had sold size "medium" on eBay...) and i used to say "Oh i'm breastfeeding, NOTHING comes out of her that you can't rinse off with just water" which shut most of them up because the majority of nay-sayers i knew had never even tried BFing, and didn't realise how inoffensive BF-poop is.
I was told by a check-out woman in Marks and SPencer on Friday morning that "she is SURELY FAR too heavy for that!" when she saw DD on my back, and i replied "i guess she must be if even YOU can feel it!" Stupid old....
Bx
Maya i am lucky to have older boys who have been parented the same so people don't question me very much if they know me well and my children because the 'proof is in the pudding' my older kids are respectful, happy, responsible and helpful, if i am asked i often say because it works! i think people regret questioning my breastfeeding, co-sleeping, gentle parenting because i have my older two that are just little (well maybe not so little now) darlings! I have said once "your critisism is appreciated, f**k you very much!"
We have to very secured and assertive when it comes to how we parent and i find not many people will question your parenting if you answer with "Of course i still breastfeed" or "of course we still co-sleep", regarding the cutting hair, maybe you could suggest a mohawk for them if they believe it's their business if you cut your child's hair maybe they are looking for your suggestions for them! Looking at them like they are joking helps too, like they are the crazy ones for not knowing it and then saying something like - "oh you were serious". None of my boys had their hair cut until they were 3 years old, i love the silky baby hair, delicious! as for them talking about it being time for another baby, tell them you didn't know it was any of their business but will book front row seats in your bedroom when the time is right so they can 'really' get involved! how rude, i did tell an aunt after i had josh, he was about 1 that i was actually infertile and couldn't have anymore kids and thanks for bringing it up, no-one ever mentioned more kids after that, and then we had Zak and oscar in our own time!
love beckles xx
'Silky baby hair' - gonna use that on DP and see if he's so determined to lose it then!
I have thought about saying I'm infertile - well, I sort of was till my period decided to come back for real last week after 3 years! I think I will say something like "do you want the too much information answer or do you want to shut up now?"