What am i meant to do??

[Oorki Galoorki]

DD is 1hour 40 minutes into a tantrum that NOTHING will stop..
it started when DH went to get her out of the car... since then it has been CONSTANT screaming.. currently she has shut herself in her room, but wants me to open the door(door knobs really high) but i open the door an inch and she screeches harder and tries slamming the door..

I am not coping with this it is a daily occurance im F***ing over it!

[~Stoked~]

Hugs... I feel for you. My little foster sister is a tantrum thrower, she is 10 now and still throws some rippers. The only thing that works for us is ignoring her completely. She has even gone as far as to throw rocks at HERSELF during a tantrum. She has ran away into the bush at 10:30 at night, she has ran down a busy highway... The works. The fastest way to get her to stop is to ignore. I have talked to her after one of her tanties (we are very close) and she said that she honestly cannot help it and hates it about herself but cannot stop as she just feels soooo angry.
Hope your DD (and my sister!) grows out of it soon xx

[Arcadia]

No advice but I couldn't read and run. I hope it passes quickly for you!

[Beatrix]

Distraction is my only advice?

maybe ignore the screaming, bring her out and maybe get her to help with dinner? even if your just talking her through it

[Oorki Galoorki]

nope distraction doesnt work, not even chocolate works
i had cooked dinner already for tonight luckily.. it finally stopped after 2.5 hours with a 15 minute break while she was in the shower.
if i talk to her or look at her im screamed at even more, but im still screamed at when "ignoring" her and letting her do what she feels the need to do. she pee'd all over the floor in the middle of it cos she "couldnt move"
arrgghh deep breaths its just a phase its just a phase its just a phase


who am i kidding!

[didispunk]

How old is she??

[Jennifer13]

My four year old DD has been losing it with gusto recently, mostly when she's both tired and p'ed off, but really pushing it to the limits. I'm thinking it might be hormonal, it's come out of nowhere and she's normally so reasonable.

It has gotta be just a phase!! In the meantime, I'm using it as the perfect opportunity to really learn how to stay calm and patient. Which is fine most of the time, not so easy after half an hour of screaming at 5 am in the morning. Because she didn't have enough room in our bed (when she squeezed her way in) and I wouldn't get out. *sigh*

[Jennifer13]

The silly thing is a good idea - I'll have to try that! Friday we had a half hour tantrum at the front door because I wouldn't let her bring in the boxes from the rubbish bin until after the cleaner had left.

[Kazbah]

Have you tried breathing in & out with her, just keep going "in" and breath in through the nose loudly, then "out" through the mouth loudly. Just keep on ... it's sorta like giving instructions / ignoring / giving attention all at the same time. Sometimes it's the only thing that will stop Pip. He'll scream and eventually do one breath with me then scream, then 2 breaths etc until eventually he's breathing without my instruction ...


good luck hun, else how loud can you get your iPod to play? (That's DH's solution )

[Bathsheba]

I have a feisty 3yo too. the things that seem to work the best are:

Long warm baths. Water is soothing... let them play in there for was long as possible... keep topping up the warm water... put in bubbles. If it's at night use candle-light (out of reach) turning off the lights does wonders. Don't speak much. Just do. Keep 'em guessing. That's why being silly works: they have to stop and try to work out what the hell you are doing and going to do next! Turn off any unnecessary sounds like background TV. Basically use sensory deprivation LOL. If it's day time just sit in the corner and play with something like some plasticine... don't invite them to play... just sit and make little eggs and put them in a pinch pot "nest"... 9/10 the kid will swallow their pride and come over and join you. If they stay irritable move away and 'play' somewhere else until they place nice. Try not to talk about the tanty... talk about something completely different... if the child can particiapate in that then weave back to the tanty issue.

[Mak]

Miss almost 4 is excelling with similiar stuff here!
If we can get outside things get better quickly....I am trying to pre empt by doing laps around the washing line/back yard to burn off some energy. I also find too much background noise gets her worked up too. Regularly food and water too - as we have been busy and let things go to long.
Good luck!