Peanutter started a thread on a similar thing a while ago... Got a whole raft of responses...

Have you discussed it with him? I have found I need to be really explicit with DH when he is home with the kids as he thinks it is enough that the kids are looked after, anything else is just a bonus... Which I don't agree with at all.

Good luck hun, having just returned to work I'm struggling to keep on top of things too...