Devastated :( after 17 hours of contractions and constant pain in my pelvis, it's all stopped. No progress made.
41 weeks today.
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Devastated :( after 17 hours of contractions and constant pain in my pelvis, it's all stopped. No progress made.
41 weeks today.
:( hang in there. I know the feeling! This happened for 3days before DS was born.
And it's all progress, it's just your body preparing in its own little weird way. Is Bub still moving ok? as long as bubs happy it's all good.
ReeRee - every contraction does something! Even if it's not active labour yet, you're getting there. Hang in there! :hug: I'm guessing when the real thing starts, it will go quickly. All the best!
It might not seem like progress was made...in terms of dialation, but it is all doing wonderful things for your body and baby to prepare. you are incredibly close *ree*. this stop-start stuff is part of your son's birthing journey...
Rest up as much as you can and drink lots of lovely boosting and nourishing drinks to build strength. You and baby are working perfectly and it will happen xx
:hug: thanks so much for your encouragement wise mummas.
Em I was just re-reading your birth story the day before, what an enormous effort!
I so hope you are right Cricket and it means a speedy real-deal!
I am trying to rest and refocus now Cassius, some zen time is in order now I think.
Baby boy is doing really well, wriggling and hiccuping away in there. Heart rate is perfect <3
I had decent early labour the day before that stopped and then again the morning of. Didn't get into established labour until about 9.30pm, but it was all done just after midnight. I was thankful for all the early non-painful stuff as it meant the full-on stage was much shorter and more manageable. sending beautiful birthing vibes!
Seconding Jennifers birth blessings for you *ree*
Such a special time of welcoming a brand new human into the world *mwah*
waaaah double post...again :lol:
Oh ree ree it really is challenging all the preparation and at times head screw that goes on. I never had 17 hours of good contractions and then stop. My first one I would get a few hours and then stop for weeks and weeks. The good news is, when it did really start her labour from start to finish was under 2hours. Your body has done some work. Have a yummy restful day. I hope little one arrives soon. THinking of you xx
Ok so we may have hit a slight bump in the road with our home birth.
My grandad is seriously ill and we arnt sure how much longer he will last without a surgery he needs but he won't consent to it the surgery til after the baby is born because it has a high mortality rate for him.
So seeing as we are 37 weeks on Monday our midwife will consider letting us induce (well try to push it for us) if that what we decide we want to do. It's not def that they would let me induce though but its a possibility.
I'm torn. I want baby to chose its own birthdate but I also want my grandad to meet his great grand baby.
I understand where you are coming from Beatrix but as long as you understand inducing has its risks as well. What gestation were your other children born. Obviously your the only one that can make the decision. But if I was in similar situation I would let Bub choose its own birthdate. Sorry to hear about your grandfather though.
My girls were all born at or just after 38 weeks. The last two were inductions as well, so I know what a induction can include. I have been lucky enough to have had 2 inductions with no issues. My last one was gels and once a contraction hit bubs was born 35 min later.
If you want my two cents worth, I think I'd let the baby pick it's own day, but it's not my call. I'm sure you'll do what you think is best for your family. All the best with your tough decision! Is there any chance of going for a 3D ultrasound with your granddad along, so he can see the baby, and then have his surgery? Also, if he books his surgery, is it going to be like, tomorrow? Or do they book a few weeks in advance? If he booked for a date a little ways ahead, you'd have a much better chance of having this baby naturally, and he'd still get to see the little one.
How's everyone else? Not much new to report here. Feeling pretty good these days. Exercising daily again, which feels SO GOOD! Feeling more frequent kicks and flutters. :) Not seeing the midwife again until the end of the month, which seems like a long time.... I always like those visits, even if there are no concerns. And this is a new midwife for me, and I'd like to get a better idea of what she's like.
Slightly OT - talking with another mum on another forum, and she was wondering about having a VBAC. But her DH is dead set against it (right now - she's going to try to talk him into it). And everyone on the thread was like "Well, you can show him it's safer, etc., etc." and she replies with "no, he's not worried about it being safe - he's just really Type A, and likes to be in control of the situation and know what to expect." And she thought that was just fine! I couldn't believe it. She's a great candidate for VBAC, but she might not get to try, because it would mean her DH "wasn't in control". Honestly? Someone would agree to major abdominal surgery, with weeks of recovery, and consequences for their reproductive future (they wanted a big family, but now they don't know if they can, b/c of the c-section), just for the sake of "being in control"? Am I out of touch with reality, or is that totally over the top?
Double post.
Cricket- the surgery will be done within 24hrs of his consent, he is bleeding into the frontal lobe part of his brain which is what makes it so dangerous. So basically every day he delays the surgery he has a 50/50 chance of not making it through/having a stroke/or not waking up.
He has LIVED for his grand children and great grandchildren.
But its still a extremely hard decision to make, but hubby and I have decided we will not induce before 38 weeks because we don't feel comfortable doing so, and once we hit 38 weeks we will reasses. The thing for me is having a HB was more of a fall back rather then a want or passion drive behind it, not that I don't believe in them 100% etc but it was a convenience thing for me with such a short labour last time I just didn't want to get in the car and this was suggested and thanks to SA awesome birthing policy at the local hospital completely free for us as well. So missing out on a home birth isn't the huge factor in it for me.
sounds like you guys have made a decision that sits right with you...and that's what is important. and like you said, the idea of a HB wasnt really what was driving the decision...it was more the worry of not making it to hospital.
Now she knows his reasons, she can work with them so he is more comfortable with her decision. My partner and i had way more 'control' birthing at home than in a hospital. It was our decision who was invited, where i birthed, what we ate, drank, how we moved....:
oops, just reread your post. thought you were talking about hbac vs hospital birth. If my partner believed something was 'safer' (vbac) but tried to insist that i have a less safe option because HE wanted to be in control (of something he won't be anyway), and he wasn't going to have to deal with many of the consequences of that decision, well he wouldn't be my partner for much longer or certainly wouldn't be invited to this event.
Cricket: yep does sound a bit OTT! How crazy!
ReeRee: how are you going?