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Here's a distraction for you... has anyone read 50 Shades of Grey? No? Okay, wise move. But anyway, I just read it and the birth scene!!! **** the birth scene! "Emergency" c-sect after 15 hours of labor because yanno, you've been doing this for 15 HOURS and that baby needs to come out and oh, actually baby is in distress so now we can do a c-sect? "Finally" mutters the OBGYN (I kid you not- I don't make this stuff up). Argh! Like the rest of the book wasn't woeful enough.
Anyone have any favourite birth quotes they'd like to share?
I have not read 50 Shades, and I have no intention of ever reading it, but from what I've heard, it sounds like the birth story is about in line with the rest of the book - some guy doing something to some girl which he assumes is going to be good for her, even if she says otherwise at the time....
Anyways, birth quotes - I think my favourite is from Ina May, and I just came across it on her Facebook page again. :)
"Remember this, for it is as true as true gets: your body is not a lemon. You are not a machine. The Creator is not a careless mechanic. Human female bodies have the same potential to give birth well as aardvarks, lions, rhinoceri, elephants, moose, and water buffalo. Even if it has not been your habit throughout your life so far, I recommend that you learn to think positively about your body." Ina May Gaskin, from Ina May's Guide to Childbirth.
:heartbeat: Pretty much sums up his argument for her to have an elective c-section the second time around despite her vaguely protesting too.:
Hmmmm... I wonder if I'll make it to next week after all. After one and a half days of my body clearing itself out I'm pretty sure I've had some contractions in the last hour and feeling a wee bit nauseous. Raced upstairs and put up the Amby hammock just in case! Not saying anything at home just yet, this might just be early stuff and I could have days to go.
I really, really want to make it to tomorrow at least - and preferably the night after when my sister (who's photographing and videoing) is due to arrive! But I guess babies choose their own time. I'm clearing my camera and video camera at least in the meantime and luckily DP is home this afternoon to re-pump the birth pool. Might just go and give the room a sweep... ;)
Not pregnant but thinking about it and one thing of concern is the birth. I've had two in a private hospital which went fantastic really but it still didn't feel quite right. I would love a homebirth but it feels overwhelming not knowing where to start! So reading through this thread and wondering, any tips or recommended reading to ease my mind that I can organise a homebirth? I'm not worried about the birth side as I've done that before lol but just getting it organised, finding someone just right and all of that. Is it all pretty simple once you find an independent midwife to guide you?
Well at least I've made it to today. Happy New Year, everyone. Started contracting again this morning so may have something to report today. Thinking it will probably ease off when everyone gets up.
Jellyfish, you'd rock a HB. It was the first thing that made the news of this surprise pg seem okay. Ina May Gaskin and Sheila Kitzinger are my favourites for reading material. The Face of Birth DVDs are good too.
Thinking of you Jennifer!! And you too The Mrs xx
The MW I was supposed to meet today is at a birth so had to cancel. Love the birthing vibes :heartbeat:
A homebirth is a wonderful thing to plan and the organisation really isn't that hard. Yes, choosing a MW is the big bit and everything sort of falls into place after that. MWs will have lists for you to prepare for the homebirth and it's pretty simple stuff. I just had to make sure I had some plastic drop sheets and a tap attachment to put the hose on for pool- not much else really. We discussed the birth set up during our appointments and I knew the space my MW wanted me to leave for her to fit her gear. Finding a MW isn't actually all that hard really either. You'll usually just have a few choices so you can meet them, have a chat and see who you gel with :)
Lighting a candle for you Jen. Time to start welcoming the baby into your heart and home.
Put up the flags, put on a birthing necklace and start that dance! I'm super excited for you!
Where are you jellyfish? Getting in touch with midwives is a great first step!
Hope today is the day for you Jenn, and maybe TheMrs too!
If anyone is still in need of a 2014 calendar, go have a look at the 2014 Homebirth Dads Calendar by Kimberly McGuinness-Rook. ;) (I'd link it, but it's a commercial link - not allowed, I think.) Google will find it for you.
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...d.php?t=195667
Freebirth. ;) Turns out I was right about the midwives not arriving! Physically I feel fantastic - what a difference with only a couple of pushes.
Squee!!!! Congratulations Jennifer!! So excited and can't wait to hear all about it. Enjoy a lovely rest with your little bubba mama xx
:baby: Babies Arrived :homebirth:
-2012-
Jennifer13- Baby GIRL born at home 4th January 2012
Bella29- Baby GIRL born at home 10th January 2012
HotI - Baby BOY born at home 21st January 2012
*Ash*- Baby BOY born at home 14th February 2012
loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 24th February 2012
Cricket - Baby GIRL born at home 15th May 2012
chocorama - May 2012
...Em - Baby BOY born at home 7th June 2012
BellyBelly - Baby GIRL born 11th August 2012
Tanya - Baby BOY born at home 16th August 2012
phynna - Baby GIRL born at home 8th September 2012
lady_neon - Baby BOY born 27th September 2012
Ambersky - Baby BOY born at home 3rd October 2012
Cassius - Baby GIRL born at home 4th November 2012
Ice cream - September 2012
mirriumu - November 2012
Pumpkinzulu - Baby GIRL born at home 12th December 2012
- 2013 -
Sara - Baby BOY born 18th January 2013
turtlejane - Baby GIRL born at home 31st January 2013
Bellany - Baby BOYS born 14th March 2013
Ree*Ree - Baby BOY born 18th March 2013
Aimz - Baby BOY born at home 21st March 2013
Beatrix - Baby GIRL born at home 7th April 2013
Rubyshoes - Baby BOY born at home April 2013
Dollyroux - Baby BOY and GIRL born 29th April 2013
HomeStyleMumma - Baby GIRL born 8th May 2013
ladybirdflies - Baby GIRL born at home 23rd May 2013
Cricket - Baby BOY born at home 26th August 2013
Sepata - Baby BOY born at home 31st August 2013
WilliamsMummy -Baby BOY born at home 17th September 2013
Loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 17th September 2013
Sunnylove - Baby GIRL born at home 2nd November 2013
Eenee - Baby BOY born at home 22nd November 2013
TeniBear - Baby GIRL born at home 21st December 2013
-2014-
Jennifer13 - Baby GIRL born at home 1st January 2014
:bellyrubs: Babies On Their Way :pregnant:
*The_Mrs* - December
Special - January
HotI - February
Arcadia - February
Smoke Jaguar - March
Bella29 - May
Sterla -August
Meow - August
e_p - September
A huge congrats Jen! Made my day seeing those beautiful pics pop up on my facebook :)
So awesome, Jen! Well done xxx
Lol Jen love a quick free birth!! Kind of empowering to do it on your own with a dash if scared!
Congrats again hun
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I see your 'concerns' as benefits of homebirth. many midwives are happy not to see you until 20 weeks or later, most are happy for you to choose the tests you want to have done. the ones I have spoken to would be fine not to discuss the ins and outs of things that weren't relevant to you (the woman).
when you are ready, meet one or more midwives and you will know if you click and if they are the right match for you.
You're right! I'm probably already starting to overthink things. And talk about cart before the horse haha going to lurk and read and absorb and let it all work itself out. Hopefully I'm here planning a homebirth really soon :)
wow - Congrats Jen!! That's amazing!
Jellyfish - my IM didn't go through all of the ins and ours of every possible scenario unless I prompted her to. She really left it up to me to bring up any concerns I had and we explored from there. We discussed the risks and benefits of the tests on offer (I declined them all) and discussed what would happen if we needed to transfer but the great thing for me about homebirth is being able to build a great relationship of trust with a midwife who I know will be able to intuit what I need to know at any given time :) Goodluck with your journey x
Thank you all for the congratulations - it's early days but we decided to tell our families over Christmas while they were all together. We got a pretty mixed reaction so it's lovely to come here and read/talk with women who get it! I can't WAIT to labour and birth again :)
Not much of a birth story. Guess I could check my text messages, but it took less than 15 mins from, "I think you should come now" to my midwife to delivering her in the shower while DP had the other midwife on speakerphone! I was having trouble resting through my 10 min apart cx for the hour before. And I had started vocalising through them.
Her waters didn't break until her head was born. No tearing, just a couple of minor labial grazes. Lucky I just finished reading Ina May's midwife stuff and tried to guide her head out with my hands as gently as I could, checking for cord as she came.
I'm completely missing the emotion from DD2's birth but in awe of how instinctively it all happened.
The only hold up was the placenta, which still didn't come after two hours, trying the toilet, having a shower, bfing baby. Nothing. I did the blow on the bottle thing and it dropped right out.
Wow, I think every woman should read up on freebirth because it truly is a reality for all of us. With ds the only reason he wasn't freebirth was because my back up midwife was in the next suburb. I also didn't get frequent or long contractions with him. It took a lot more than three pushes though lol.
I haven't heard of the blow on a bottle thing. Placentas are funny things. Mine plopped out with ds when my primary midwife finally arrived. I think the emotional stuff is important for that third stage.
Were you shakey from shock Jen? It's a lot to go through so quickly!!!
I've been contemplating our chances of freebirthing since we moved to the country! All good - the mw's came late in the piece last time, I didn't need the midwife to do anything hands on (she filled the bath!) for DS's FBC birth, so at this stage (28 weeks) I'm preparing for a freebirth scenario if my mw can't make it on time.
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Freya Holiday was born on New Years Eve after a 3 hour labor with no tearing!
And I got my HBAC <3
Congratulations The Mrs! Gorgeous photo.
my midwife only made it by 7 mins or something last time. unfortunately, this time won't have my student who only lived 10 mins away and helped out heaps. will prob get mw mobile earlier cos ds birth wasn't very long. I am writing list of phone number s of locals who can help me or take kids if things happen quickly when dh not home.
I haven't heard of blow on bottle thing either. might be handy.
e_p, why did you get mixed reactions? I thought people would be excited by your news.
Congratulations The_Mrs! Gorgeous photo :) And I love her name :D
Congratulations The Mrs!!! Well done you!! It is totally overwhelming the emotion of a hbac! Enjoy the high love! You did it!!!! Well done mamma! We knew you could! Can't wait to read your story too!
Congratulations themrs!! Stunning photo!
:baby: Babies Arrived :homebirth:
-2012-
Jennifer13- Baby GIRL born at home 4th January 2012
Bella29- Baby GIRL born at home 10th January 2012
HotI - Baby BOY born at home 21st January 2012
*Ash*- Baby BOY born at home 14th February 2012
loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 24th February 2012
Cricket - Baby GIRL born at home 15th May 2012
chocorama - May 2012
...Em - Baby BOY born at home 7th June 2012
BellyBelly - Baby GIRL born 11th August 2012
Tanya - Baby BOY born at home 16th August 2012
phynna - Baby GIRL born at home 8th September 2012
lady_neon - Baby BOY born 27th September 2012
Ambersky - Baby BOY born at home 3rd October 2012
Cassius - Baby GIRL born at home 4th November 2012
Ice cream - September 2012
mirriumu - November 2012
Pumpkinzulu - Baby GIRL born at home 12th December 2012
- 2013 -
Sara - Baby BOY born 18th January 2013
turtlejane - Baby GIRL born at home 31st January 2013
Bellany - Baby BOYS born 14th March 2013
Ree*Ree - Baby BOY born 18th March 2013
Aimz - Baby BOY born at home 21st March 2013
Beatrix - Baby GIRL born at home 7th April 2013
Rubyshoes - Baby BOY born at home April 2013
Dollyroux - Baby BOY and GIRL born 29th April 2013
HomeStyleMumma - Baby GIRL born 8th May 2013
ladybirdflies - Baby GIRL born at home 23rd May 2013
Cricket - Baby BOY born at home 26th August 2013
Sepata - Baby BOY born at home 31st August 2013
WilliamsMummy -Baby BOY born at home 17th September 2013
Loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 17th September 2013
Sunnylove - Baby GIRL born at home 2nd November 2013
Eenee - Baby BOY born at home 22nd November 2013
TeniBear - Baby GIRL born at home 21st December 2013
*The_Mrs.* - Baby GIRL born at home 31st December 2013
-2014-
Jennifer13 - Baby GIRL born at home 1st January 2014
:bellyrubs: Babies On Their Way :pregnant:
Special - January
HotI - February
Arcadia - February
Smoke Jaguar - March
Bella29 - May
Sterla -August
Meow - August
e_p - September
With the time difference was Jen and The Mrs in labour at the same time?
Has anyone heard from Special? Starting to get excited now i am close to the top of the list!
Possibly? Jennifer's baby was born around 5pm Dec 31st in our time zone... what time was Freya born The Mrs?
The list seems to be racing along now :)
The Mrs that is a seriously great photo. I can feel the emotion of that moment! Love it! Congrats on your new bubba and your HBaC
Congratulations mrs!!!! Wlecome to the world little one!!
She was born at 2:23am PST :) I'll try to link her birth story if I can
Congratulations, The Mrs!! Happy new year to you mamas :)
Congrats TheMrs! Love your photo. Bit sad I have no photos of DD3's arrival at all (although indelibly imprinted in my mind).
Hot1, I asked my m/w to come and gave birth within 15 mins. Contractions still only 10 mins apart but I felt the head and freaked. I'd have to live next door if I expect any midwife to make it if I ever have another. She called a closer midwife who arrived about 10 mins after birth. My doula is local and got here about 5 mins afterwards.
Had a bit of a debrief with my m/w at today's visit. I can't believe how good I feel physically but the emotion I had after DD2 isn't there. Bit proud of my ability to handle it all so well though. ;)
Jen when you say the emotion isn't there, is it because it was just a normal day and the birth just unfolded, rather than it being a big 'event' with witnesses and photos etc?
I fantasize about a birth like that, and kind of had that with ds so I'm interested to know what you mean.
Congratulations and well done girls on your little squishes!