Woohoo!!!! Congrats e_p.
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Woohoo!!!! Congrats e_p.
Teni- how is DH coping with it?
Yep quick births are full on even with a build up.
DH and I chatted a lot about Zoe's birth for us to process it, he was pretty shocked over the whole thing too and my body took a far hit from it being less then 30min. We also had to block out a lot of your 'lucky' nothing went wrong comments... Umm yes because even if it wasn't a planned hb what do you think would have happened people? Anyway this shouldn't be about me it's your time.
Thankfully you had your midwives there!! And your mum and dd. Just take your time to sort through what happened and talk to your midwives about it to. They will help you process.
E_p! That is great news honey! Wonderful news :). I think we were both pregnant together for a short time last pregnancy too. It is so exciting!!
So my plan...was to never have a cervical check but at my last visit we decided we would have one just out of curiosity. Ive been on both ends so I knew the answer wouldnt mean anything. BUT Im slightly weirded out by something. she said the head was freakishly low..but my cervix is high up by my head. Can this cause problems in labor? she didnt seem bothered by it and of course I didnt think to ask her this when I was there.
Sounds like bubs is just right in position to be born. And don't worry about what it is doing. It knows how to do it. Your gonna do great mrs!
Ohh congratulations e_p! I'm excited to be having our baby near you too xx
Yay! I've emailed the MW I figured I'm pretty sure I want and we have an initial appointment set up for the 28th! Pretty much none of the MWs around here do in-home prenatal care but she does and she seems very 'with women' so I think it'll be a good fit. Fingers crossed :)
Cassius, so far no hint of all that hospy talk - I copped it from GPs during my last pg when I went in there for unrelated reasons, so it's a relief not to get the lecture about the 'risks'! I'm also prefacing contact with the fact that my second baby was born at home, so I'm according them the intelligence to infer that I already know about 'risks' etc ;)
HotI, how's the critter's movements going? Sorry if I'm missed a post updating the sicho - I've had my sister and her family over and my computer is in the guest room!
yeah, baby moving a bit more. think it may have changed position so movements are being muffled by placenta. thanks for checking in.
hoping baby comes a bit early, cos the thought of going for another 10 weeks makes me wanta vomit, or perform my own surgery.
Meow: ooohhhh I am sooo excited for you! i hope that the midwife is an awesome fit! Do you need help in finding a photographer...I have a few peeps that might know some peeps (and they are lovely peeps lol!).
Smoke: yeah, i found that too. it was much easier to navigate the 'risks' talk once you already have a baby that was born at home. In fact, i always started the convo with 'we are planning to have this baby at home as well'. it shuts them right down as they are less inclined to tell you their colloquial 'risks' talk. in fact when i had to take an ambulance at 5 weeks postpartum for PPH the ambo was so totally awesome and was pro HB! so that set up the whole hospital trip nicely for me :D
HotI: oh no! you poor poppet! do you usually struggle with being pregnant? or is just this one? any prospect of some pampering while you are with bump? I had a shocker few weeks with DD3 and tried a prenatal massage. it didnt fix everything, but it was nice to have that hour to myself and for myself.
the_mrs: nah, i wouldnt be concerned at all. your cervix knows what to do and with bubs in that position it will start doing it's thing quite well!
E_P: WAHOO!! that is awesome news! congratulations! I have two september babies...they are pretty lovely!
Big hugs Hot1 :( I hope you get a break really soon.
Congratulations ep!!!
Eeek so many new babies coming up, making me clucky and DS is on,y 4weeks! Haha oh dear but no more baby's for me!
HotI: yeah I was about ready to take a knife to myself in the end to make the pregnancy go quicker! One day at a time,hopefully the next few weeks go fast for you x
I'm sorry this pregnancy is so hard hoti. Glad to hear baby is moving xx I hope you have closer to 5 weeks than 10 weeks to go!
What do you all think about MWs who haven't given birth? Turns out my preferred MW isn't a mother herself. She is one of nine sisters and comes from a 'positive birth' family and says it was her positive view of birth combined with being a birth assistant at a friend's hospital birth that drove her to become a HB MW. She seems really knowledgable and in line with my thinking but I've always had a hesitation about MWs who haven't birthed themselves. I'd like to think about it some more before I meet to her to work out my 'issues'.
My primary, Kelly, isn't a mother yet. And she was absolutely fantastic.
Sorry, can't be much more elaborate than that. I've been typing my birth story and I think all my words have gone :lol:
Meow, my first birth was attended by a mw who hadn't birthed before and she was so completely awesome and hands off (FBC birth), we were mutually grateful - her for me doing the birthing by myself (with hypnobirthing) and me for her letting me be and just reading the body language to know when to back off and just watch :)
HotI, so glad you're feeling movements again! It's the little things when the pregnancy is being a trial...hope it goes quickly for you from here on in.
My pelvis packed it in again yesterday :( It had stabilised for just over 2 weeks and I hadn't really used the crutches much at all. Then, yesterday, when I would have liked to cook brekky and lunch for my sister and her family I was either hobbling around or sitting down. I got excited, thinking that as my pelvis hadn't stabilised in the other pregnancies that I would have an easier time of it after the fortnight I'd had. Actually, the last fortnight seems to have flown by because I could do some things again. Now I'm back to feeling like this is dragging on. All the more reason to look forward to having a nice homebirth - anything to salvage my pregnancy experiences! Sadly, too, the social worker couldn't get the Shire to see that I need home help, after a last ditch effort. My DP's day yesterday consisted of doing the morning milking where he works, coming home to see my sister and BiL before they left, then heading back to move hay for his boss. Home for a short bit (time for a coffee) before heading back to OUR farm to meet the butcher and bring back the cool room with a fresh beastie in it, then returning his boss' tractor and back to our farm to dispose of innards. Home again to shower, scoff down a sausage in bread and then all of us headed off to a local carols service. Even without the seasonal events thrown in there, he's shuttling between farms every day...but because he comes home to sleep at night we're not eligible for home help!
Anyhow, looking forward to a quiet Christmas Eve and wishing I could stay home tomorrow. 3 months of whining to go!
Saw the midwife again today and she thinks it will be any minute. I dilated another couple cms in a couple days and she actually thinks it's going to be a super fast labor! Maybe a Xmas baby?
Thinking of you The_Mrs!!! Blessed birthing vibes to you xx
Thanks Teni and SJ for your experiences :)
Woo hoo, The Mrs!
Beautiful birthing vibes your way, TheMrs. Sounds like you're all set.
My primary m/w was not a mother for DD2's birth. She was wonderful. Ironically, she has become a mother herself in between DD2's birth and this bub, and since I see both of my m/ws fairly regularly thanks to our HB group get togethers it's been awesome to share the experience of mothering with her. Gave us something else to talk about this pg too - because I got to hear all the details of her HB! (And let's face it, any chance to get into the details with someone who knows their stuff and shares the same birthing philosophy is good. ;))
I don't know if it will change her support during my birth, but she did say it altered her perception of her post-birth care, because she has a better understanding of the emotions involved.
Everything steady here. Bub has dropped a bit more but I'd say at least a week away still. Fx a little more!
I don't love pregnancy, but this one seems to be much harder. I.always loved feeling baby movements, it was always the benefit to feeling crummy, and this one has been quieter all along than my other two. however, that could be a good thing when it arrives.:
I hate whinging about it all too, but am grateful that you all put up with it, and offer such kind words. I dk have a voucher for a massage, and might see if I can book in while dh is on leave.
the mrs, looking forward to hearing you have your baby in your arms. are you ok with the ve's? even with no checks, baby will still be born ;)
hope everyone is able to spend time with family or friends.
take care
I have been pondering this question. I have been birth support for two of my sils. one pre babies, and one post babies. my perspective has certainly changed, but I wonder how much is exposure to birth vs experience of birthing. to truly understand my trauma, or bliss of MY births I do think you have to have experienced it, I wouldn't appreciate it fully just from observing or hearing about it. but I also think a woman's philosophy and life experiences also play a huge part in how they would support another. so, if these aligned with mine then her lack of personal birth experience may not play as much in my decision. good luck, its a tricky one.:
it took me a little while to decide on birth support this time. I ended up going with same support I had with DS, but it wasn't as automatic as I thought the decision would be.
I found someone local (2 mins away) who does henna, and I am thinking about having a party for one and getting my belly henna ed. is the idea that it will still be there when baby arrives, or more just something nice to get done sometime later in pregnancy?
had a lovely day today with family, and now soaking in the spa bath before heading to bed.
love to all
I'm starting to get antsy. I've never made it this far with my other girls plus my pelvis hurts something fierce. I need some encouragement as I'm starting to be a little depressed about hurting and still being pregnant. Especially since I probably have another week or so
Hugs mrs, you are doing great. Can u take some paracetamol to help with the pain and take it easy?
:hug: TheMrs. The end is uncomfortable, isn't it? I'm reminding myself that it gives me just a little longer to rest and take it easy before she arrives. Plus, I'm a little nervous about managing three, especially with DD2 being her usual rambunctious toddler self.
I feel like the biggest hypocrite saying this, considering I felt the exact same way a week ago, but try to keep in mind that you can't be pregnant forever, TheMrs :hug: Sending you lots of happy birthing vibes :)
Hang in there the mrs i know it's tough. I struggled to get through my pregnancies but made it in the end. The wait will be worth it. I just tell myself that the baby will come when it is the RIGHT time even though you may not feel that way.
Try and rest as much as possible the mrs. Just focus on the basics and looking after yourself xx Are you seeing a chiro?
(Paracetamol=Acetaminophen/Tylenol)
hoti- I think henna sounds like a great idea! Perhaps with how hard it can be to time it with the birth you could just do it anytime that suits you as a blessing to yourself to nurture yourself and this pregnancy. To offer a ray of light. You have me wanting to do it too now. It's kind of exciting to have something new and special to be able to do during a third pregnancy :)
Thanks for your experiences too hoti. I think the postnatal care bit is an good point. Interestingly one thing that draws me to this MW is that her care is more woman centered than anyone else around and she's the only one who offers all her post-natal care as home visits rather than switching to office visits as early as 2 weeks post-birth! I'm shocked so many MWs around here do that! I found another list of local MWs and now there are WAY too many to choose from but I figure I can scratch off the flimsy care ones ;)
In any case we're going to hire a post-natal doula this time. I have always fallen apart for at least the first couple of weeks post-natally and I want intense care at that time. Given our birth will be covered by insurance this time too I figure we can spend the money that we would have otherwise spent on the MW.
The Mrs, do you know of anyone close who does pregnancy acupuncture? I found it extremely relieving in my last pregnancy with my pelvis, and I'll start a course of acupuncture soon. If not, then all I have to offer for comfort is that you have a week or so to go then you'll get relief and endorphins to take your mind off it! I've got a summer to go with this immobility crap...you are so very near the end :)
Thank you everyone for your kind words. It doesn't help that it's the holidays and I've seen a lot of family and they all have some unwanted advice about how to go into labor. I've been going to the chiro but I might make another appt tomorrow just because I am so miserable. It is really hard to start to entertain crazy thoughts. I start to worry and lose faith in my body that I won't be able to go into labor naturally on my own.
Don't you buy into that rubbish mrs. Your body is perfect and it will do what it knows how to do. It doesn't need help to sneeze or to poo or to make wee. Why would it need help to go into labour? It is just that labour rarely happens at the timing of other people, that we have created a culture that loves to control the onset of labour. Just relax and do the things that nurture your body and you and it will do it all by itself. If part of that means more privacy and turning off your phone, then so be it. You are gonna do a great job.
Thinking of you the mrs! As someone born at Xmas (29 dec) and mum to a Boxing Day baby all I can say is the further from Xmas the better!!
Oliver's homebirth - YouTube
Ooo look at this awesome video I found on you tube apparently it's someone on here...
it's not me ;)
Time to get ready ;)
Now we just have to choose a name. And wait.
Oooo it's green!
It's the same pool I had for DD2. Kinda feels right. We found a small hole that we've patched, but otherwise it's all good to go.
Got the chance for some me time this weekend (hair cut, pedicure and massage). I'm feeling quite clucky now, but it still feels a little unreal that the birth is only a week or so away. How did that happen?
Waiting with you ladies! Can't wait to hear about the new little people arriving. :) Those last days can be so long and exhausting - hang in there! It truly won't last forever. You can do it!
By the way, I just discovered that Ina May Gaskin has a Facebook page. (Maybe this is old news to the rest of the world... :)) Anyways, if you're looking for a little inspiration or reassurance for your birth, that's a great place to start!
Well, milk has changed and is watery (not sure if this happened today or sometime recently, but I just noticed it). Bowel movements looser, appetite decreased. I think baby will be here in a week. ;)
I like Ina May's FB page, in fact, look at her 'liked' pages and you'll start to find a whole heap that are good to follow.
Stilllllll pregnant :/
Ooo- exciting Jennifer!
Happy "due date" Mrs! Plenty of time for baby to arrive :)
January 1st is a supermoon so the gravitational pull will be strong... may encourage these babies earthside?
Thinking of you, TheMrs. Sending birthing vibes your way.