Suggestions please!

[Dollyroux]

Not pregnant but just thinking about my options for number 2. I would like a homebirth because I want to be left alone/minimal interventions BUT I would prefer to recover/spend a few days in hospital.

I really like the staying in a hospital, doing nothing, having visitors, getting fed thing. Hospitals themselves don't bother me, actually quite like them! The thought of Staying home for the first few days after birth actually freaks me out a little.
I know, I'm weird!

I'm trying to think of a way that I can have the best of both worlds - maybe staying in a hotel afterwards? I know some private hospitals do a stay in hotels afterwards so maybe one of them would be appropriate. Maybe it's selfish of me to want the best if
both but I figure I should aim high so to speak.

Does anyone have suggestions on how best to make this work?



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[Olive]

some doulas offer after birth services which look after mum, would that interest you?

[PollyA]

I think it would be money better spent to have someone come to your home to look after you and as Olive says there are people who offer this. You would just have to be strong- no work. Just a baby moon.
You could also pay for a cleaning service and get your favourite meals cooked and delivered. This might be best for Nellie too, she'll have you around, get to meet the new baby but still have her toys etc.
ETA- For number 3 this will be my biggest change. A proper babymoon. Where the only things I need to think about are mine and my babies needs.

[Nelle]

Does your bub do sleepovers with grandparents or anything? My #1 loves sleepovers, so he stayed with his grandparents and they just visited every day.

[Dollyroux]

Those are some things to think on, but not really what I'm after - I think if anything I would do the doula/housecleaner thingy but I'm stuck on the idea of being out of the house. I guess maybe it's an ideal I have in my head that I need to recalibrate, if that makes sense.

Yes, DD will be more then happy to be at Grannies, so that part is no worry.

I'm just having a hard time of the babymoon concept at home!


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[Olive]

im with you here dolly as i know if i did have another it would be at the birth centre but id also like to stay, for the same reasons as you've mentioned, i hope you can find something to suit

[Dollyroux]

Oh I'm so glad you replied Olive, was beginning to think I was nuts!


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[Traveller]

I like staying in hospital too, so much more relaxed than being home where I have to run after the kids/sort the laundry, etc. Perhaps you could look into a hotel and hire a doula who will look after you for that time? Or you could have a homebirth, then transfer into hospital (pretend it was an unexpected home birth maybe?) I do actually know one woman who planned to transfer to hospital after her baby was born because she was high risk for a PPH but wanted the birth at home, so it's not completely unheard of.

[grub17]

have you thought about a birth centre? it's not a home birth but the one i've gotten into seems as close. they do water birthing, non-intervention, midwife-led stuff... we can even birth out in our private garden under the stars if we want (and yes it's a public hospital). YOu are supposed to go home 4 hours post birth, but i'm pretty sure if you aren't ready etc you can get transfered to the maternity ward.

Maybe something similar in your area. best of luck

[Dollyroux]

Hi Grub,
I was booked into the birth centre at the Angliss for my DD. My water broke 24 hours before onset of labor so I was transferred to L&D. A number of unwanted interventions occurred and a traumatic birth experienced and I'm terrified of it happening again. So thats out really. 'twas a great suggestion :/


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[Dollyroux]

Traveller - re homebirth then recovery in hospital - do you know how that was organised? Through the hospital or the midwife - just curious.


I think I'm going to contact the hotels that do the post birth service for some of the private hospitals in Melbourne and see if they could do a package or something?? Thoughts anyone?


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[Traveller]

sorry I should have clarified, the homebirth to hospital transfer was through the NHS where the hospitals support homebirth. It would be an option if your hospital had a funded homebirth option. If not I'm sure as a newly postnatal woman you could expect admittance to a public hospital, although you might have to keep the involvement of your IM quiet.

[sneakysparkle]

I think I'm going to contact the hotels that do the post birth service for some of the private hospitals in Melbourne and see if they could do a package or something?? Thoughts anyone?


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I think that is such a great idea!! I would love to do something like that!
Definitely look into it

[Fleur]

Are you going throught the private or public system? I know here, beds can be in short supply - so, being your second baby and assuming no complications you might not get a stay of a few days anyhow, it might be more like one, or two.
If I was wanting a longer stay away I wouldn't put my money on the hospital system, I'd be looking at a hotel (might be nicer & more comfortable too).

[Ree*Ree]

Dollyroux, this is EXACTLY what I want too! I want the homebirth/birthcentre, but love my hospital stays as well
I thought I was weird, actually enjoying staying in hospital

[ladybirdflies]

My last baby and I stayed in my room for two weeks while the house, cooking and children were looked after by family and friends. Perhaps that time might be too long for you, but maybe just a few days in your room where all you do is focus on you and bubs!