Congratulations and welcome!:
Ummmm, i'm second on the list.... Eeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Congratulations and welcome!:
Ummmm, i'm second on the list.... Eeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ahhh stoked! I am so happy for you!!! You have had to wait such a long time for this baby! Not long now :)
Sorry I'm not very chatty here girls, so lethargic! Midwife came around yesterday, had a wee palp of bubba, and said "well, it could pretty much be any day now!" she's bringing the birth pool around tomorrow or Saturday. Not officially due till the 6th, but who knows. Keeps my parents on tenterhooks as they live a good 6 hours drive away and would like to know when to come! Wouldn't we all.
Sigh. Moody cow at the moment.
:hug: Hetty, sounds like you're ready to meet your baby sooner rather than later.
First m/w appt tomorrow so hoping all goes well. Seems like DP is on board though, when I complained about the inconvenience of the ob appt next week he said "oh well, it's only once", so it means he's thinking the decision is all but made. ;) Which it is, but just want him to feel comfortable and on board!
Welcome eutra!
M/w visit went really well and DP was happy to engage her on the spot - so a huge bonus that he didn't even feel we had to talk about it behind closed doors. She answered all our questions and brought along the second m/w who will be there for the birth as well. My doula was here too, so I think he felt he was surrounded by a wealth of birthing knowledge!
I'm so excited now - in my head the room is all set up with the birthing pool, music and dim lighting. ;) Now to just enjoy the next 27 or so weeks...
That's awesome news Jennifer! And very exciting!
thanks for the welcome everyone! :) very happy to be in here!
helly very exciting!! You must be so tired - hope you're able to rest up and the time until your bub arrives goes quickly!
Jennifer13 wow that's fantastic that your plans are coming along so well! :) Great that your DP is so supportive too! DH loved our MW from the moment we met her too!
My hips are so sore today - went out to buy some maternity pants for work and a few other things - 1.5 hours of shopping and I was close to begging a stranger to driving me home so I didn't have to battle with public transport!
The other thing that keeps getting stuck in my head is what tap fittings to get to fill up our birth pool! It's the only thing I'm anxious about for some strange reason...does anyone have any tips??
hi girls!
welcome Eutra!
Jennifer: that is great news that the appt went so well :dance:. i think your DH being surrounded by women who are in the business of birth is the best thing to get him feeling confident that staying home is totally normal and awesome :) especially as he will be more included throughout the whole process generally.
Helly: oh your are so close now!
Oh the joys of pregnancy! I wish id been there to offer you a ride!:
Jennifer - glad to hear your visit went well! My middy is dropping off our birth pool tomorrow, can't wait to set it up, hope it'll fit in the room I have planned!
Eutra - we went to the garden center and grabbed some kind of hose thing to fit on our washing machine taps... After the fail that was last time, lol, when we discovered in the middle of labour that the hose didn't fit, and mum and Tim had to manually fill it, we've made sure already it works!
Mmm, public transport and pregnancy - oh joy! I totally stake out priority seating when I'm pregnant. Who could be mo re important, lol!
Afm - argh, someone come and save me from myself! I've got so much to do, and no energy to do it! When does that nesting energy kick in? or is it a myth? Plus I've got such a shocking attitude at the moment, I don't know what's going on there, I can't afford to be so negative now of all times. I was all positive the other night, did my affirmations and went to sleep believing them and feeling awesome, and since then I've felt like crap! Bleh.
Jennifer that time of having it all booked and the meetings just starting is SO exciting!! I loved that too- such a great high to take with you along the pregnancy journey :D
As for tap fittings- our bathroom tap that we were using had a filter thing screwed on the end so it already had screw grooves. We went to the hardware store and chatted to a guy about what we needed to convert it to fit a hose attachment and we had to get a female/male converter thingo and then the hose attachment bit. He was super helpful though and we didn't have to do any of the thinking ourselves ;)
Jennifer: glad the first appointment went well
Eutra: we got an attachment thing for the hose at bunnings to fit onto the laundry tap. It meant that when filling the pool you had to change the cold and hot tap over one at a time. I didn't have to worry about that though cos I was busy with other things :)
Helly: nesting didn't kick in for me until I was in labour haha.
Is it strange that I want to have another birth already!? I watched my birth video the other day and I was like awwww I wanna do that again!
No way it's strange. It better not be anyway because I am CLUCK CLUCK CLUCKY!!!! I wanna do that all again. Home birth rocks.
Helly- good luck! I can't wait to read your birth story!
Jennifer- so happy your appointment went well and that dh is feeling good about it. I think it's important that our dh's are comfortable too.
Afm, well, I've been on a midwife ringing spree! Turns out it was more difficult than I though to get a mw who comes to my area and is available at the time. At about my 6 phone call I spoke to Andrea bilcliff who couldn't help me herself but gave me the number of another midwife who actually only lives about 10 minutes from me. She does a lot of work for Eastside midwives. I'll be meeting her next week.I hope we click. Very exciting!
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Eutra: the tap fitting this is easy to organise. as the others have said, just go to your local hardware and get them to do the thinking :lol: we hooked ours up to the laundry taps as it was in the bathroom and we had a super long hose that was fed through to the dining (where I had the pool set up).
Loulabelle: :clap: that is soooo exciting!! the other recommendation i can put forward is Jan Ireland. i met her the other day and she is so incredibly fab. not sure where she is based though :dunno:
Em: totally not strange! man, i would give anything to have DD2s birth again! it was amazing and the best thing that i have ever experienced; no joke! i was so sceptical before i had her of this 'joyous birth' stuff, but now i TOTALLY get it...and want more of it :rofl:
Can anyone suggest ways for me to get in the right mindset for birthing? I'm feeling extremely mentally unprepared! I feel like this pregnancy has just flown and i haven't had a chance to even think about what I want for the birth yet. I have started reading positive birth stories, and Ina May, but does anyone have other suggestions?
I think I need to have a big chat (and cry perhaps!) to my midwife as there are alot of fears that I have to get over, most of which are probably normal fears (stillbirth, PPH, shoulder dystocia, prem labour.. just to name a few!).
Getting music organised is something I'd like to do soon. I'll be buying the baby a set of drawers this week so I can get all his things sorted and out of boxes. Gosh, even me saying the word 'baby' is freaking me out! I'm going to have a baby.. An actual baby.... See what I mean by unprepared!?
stoked i think this is normal for a pregnancy after loss and when you have other kids. Molly didnt seem real until the second she was born! I felt like i was making it all up before then...
on the other note...please please please lean on your MW...this is exactly what you are paying her for and why we choose to have homebirths. If id had someone to lean on with Mollys birth there is no way things would have ended up like they did!
Stoked, you might if already done this, but I find the calmbirth or hypnobirthing relaxation cd's amazing. They helped a lot with me last time, they made feel so excited yet calm about birthing.
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Call your midwife Stoked - it's Melissa, right? She'll see you right :hug:
yep, id get on the blower to your midwife. also get that birth compilation ready and then of an evening once the kids are in bed and you are comfy in your pjs find a great little comfy chair (mebbe even the one that you will feed bubba in...mebbe in the bubs room) and put on the ipod with the earphones pumping and close your eyes, embrace that belly and just let it out. i did this around the 38 week mark and i found that for an hour and half i just sat there quietly sobbing (or mebbe not so quietly at times lol). let it allllllllll out. feel the kicks and rolls, comfort your baby and comfort yourself, that connection will come even if for only a second or two, but it will come :hug:. this is what i found totally awesome and a big release (i had my own fears related to my severe PTSD after DD1 was born and was *quietly* pooping in my pants :lol:
Thankyou so much ladies xx you are all so gorgeous xx
I am seeing my midwife (yes Melissa, MadB) on Tuesday so i will be having a big ol' chat with her. I started writing a list today of all the things I need to buy/get ready and already feel a little better.
I think you're right Tegam, I really did not expect this baby to make it. I guess part of me still doesn't :( I have been protecting myself by distancing myself. Even my 11 year old daughter has noticed and commented on it!
I have started talking to the baby and really trying to connect with him. The poor child.. I feel so bad, like I've neglected him already :( I'm really going to be focusing on him these next 6 or so weeks (and beyond, of course!).
Thanks for all the advice.. I really, really appreciate it xx
Oh Stoked, dont push yourself. i was getting so stressed about it in the end of Mollys pregnancy that i just had to say to myself that the pregnancy and the baby are different. I wanted the baby more than anything and i would welcome it whole heartedly! But the pregnancy was a stressful event that yes was completely different to my first.
As my mother says what the younger children lack in one area they gain in others! eg. we dont sit there ever week and know exactly whats growing :rofl: but like molly she has 3 big sister/brother that adore her every move!
It is was it is! You are a lovely mum and the minute that baby is warm and ooshy on your chest the love will flow... i promise!
Went to the ob this morning (promised DP we would, just to give ourselves the option). Everything still good, and it looks like the placenta is starting to grow to the back wall, so it is definitely the baby I'm feeling move. Placenta seems to be away from the scar as well as the cervix too. He looked at the scar with u/s and said it's healed so well it's very hard to find. We talked abut VBAC and he thought I should expect no issues. DP and I felt good when we left and he's now completely on board with a HB (DP that is, not the ob!). We talked a bit about the hospital and that confirmed why I don't want to go there, continuous monitoring, IV on admission, that kind of thing.
So I didn't make a follow up appt. I'm going to have to make a sheepish call to let them know we won't be going ahead, but I feel sure it's the right option. DP talked to him about HB generally and the ob while he said obviously his profession doesn't endorse them he had met some great HB m/ws and some complete nuts. His negatives were mostly the mess, lack of continuous monitoring and distance to hospital, which is not a problem for us since we're 5 mins away.
Now I've got that off my chest - HB here we come!
Stoked - hope you had a good chat with your m/w today. :hug:
Guys, just in case you're not aware of this already on FB
Threat to HBAC
Stoked don't feel bad... Ok something I havent admitted before but after my losses I was only able to really accept that DD Is actually here and ok in the last month. Before that I loved her but it was almost like i felt I was faking that connection. but now all is well :)
Stoked - how are you? Please don't beat yourself up over how you've been feeling, they are normal feelings given the situation. Hope you're feeling a bit better. Xxx
Madb - grrr, so much I could say about that but what's the point here, you guys know it all anyway. Makes me angry!
Afm , found a midwife! Janie nottingham. Met her yesterday and she was fantastic. I'm feeling really good about it. And excited.
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that is awesome news loulabelle! makes it feel all the more real now!
Jen: well i reckon if they are the only concerns the ob had then that is pretty good! we had no real "mess" just has to drain the water from the pool and throw out the liner, and as for contiuous monitoring: our IMs are so closely connected to you, your baby and body during the course of your pregnancy and are there 100% for the birth (not like an OB that sometimes makes it there or sometimes doesnt IYKWIM). also, the great thing with a HB (well in my experience) is that as a birthing woman you are so much more connected to you and your baby during the process. all these things IMHO are what make a HB such a great experience (total trust and total support).
I agree with cassius. They insist on continuous monitoring for a few reasons a) arse covering, b) they're more comfortable watching a machine than a woman and c) they don't really know the woman anyway, so are more likely to miss something.
em... I felt that way with DS. It really took quite a while, something that for me was compounded by thte birth experience.
That's great news Loulabelle.
Oh yeah I completely agree with you girls and so did DP (he'll be marching at the next HB rally at this rate!). I quizzed the ob about that because I said I wasn't in favor and he said that if there's a rupture it would affect the baby's heart rate. To which I pointed out that lots of things might affect the baby's heart rate and that wasn't necessarily a cause for alarm. He agreed with me, but in the end, it's the hospital that's been my issue all along ITMS.
Hence our complete satisfaction with our choice at this point.
I saw that story, MadB, and it's insane. But hopefully it doesn't go any further. Doesn't sound like much of a case, really.
:leap: Jennifer for converting DP! :leap:
Yay for Jennifer's DP!
How are you today stoked? :hug: Pregnancy and birth can be such a mental battle. I hope you are feeling content and strong after seeing your MW.
Hello to everyone else! Does anyone have any news of Helly?
Hi ladies,
Yay Jennifer and Loulabelle! Sounds like you're both on your way to awesome HBs!
Thanks so much ladies.. I am feeling alot better today. I have been making an effort to get organised with all the 'stuff' I need for baby and birth, which has made me feel a tad more prepared. Bought a new album today to have playing during labour too! Have been talking with DH about the baby lots more too. It all helps.
I actually forgot to mention my feelings to my midwife the other day. It was a bit of a crazy day and I knew I had to talk to her about something but I couldn't remember what.. Of course it all came flooding back the minute she left! Next time!
You have all helped immensely though and it's really nice to know that I'm not alone in my feelings xxx
Hi Kids
Just letting you know i have an appt with an IM coming up in a week and a bit. DH is keen to chat to her too. (She helped us with my hospital complaint stuff so we have both met her before). i have been accepted (for now) into the birth centre, so still deciding which way to go. i am looking forward to talking to the IM.
that's all
Hi girls,
Birthed Monday night, transferred to hospital. Dealing with it. https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...ansfer-165743/
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:grouphug: helly
Stoked, I'm glad you're feeling better...I always remembered the importan things after my midwife left!! Don't be afraid to call her. I really recommend setting up a birth alter. I have a photo of mine in my album here on bb. It had a candle affirmations and crystals. I found it so great for connecting with ds in the lead up to his birth.
Jen I am so excited for you!! I find it funny the ob mentioned mess...it's seriously not an issue and the midwives clean up anyway. It's birth! So much more is going on to be worrying about mess!
And as for monitoring...I felt ds kicking the whole time, although the Doppler was used too.
Helly: :hug: dont feel that you have to deal with it too quickly ok? It's totally OK to be angry/hurt etc etc. You are awesome and you and your baby did an awesome job, but that doesnt detract from the crapness of the situation. FWIW, i had a PTSD after DD1s birth and technically it was a straightforward affair and i *know* that despite everything we were totally fab and awesome, but it was still traumatising. dont let them sweep that under the carpet for you. let them know at your 6 week appt i reckon!
But that said, massive massive phat hugs :hug: :hug: :hug:
Hey ladies, sorry it's taken me so long to post!! Been so busy with a newborn, it's fantastic :) My birth story is up. We ended up transferring as there was a lot of meconium in my waters, but I am 100% happy with that choice, surprisingly. I thought I'd be shattered, but I don't think I truly understood the words, "Homebirth is a philosophy, not just a venue", until I had such a fantastic birth in a setting I didn't expect to be in. We had our HB program midwife with us instead of a hospy one, and our doula. It was a powerful an uplifting experience, and even though I had some gas in the ambulance, I am okay with that decision too. I had a pretty huge crisis of confidence initially whilst and shortly after transferring, and the moment my middie and Doula arrived, I found my calm again :) I even ended up breathing Isla out, it was just the most peaceful and tranquil birth I could have hoped for :)
Helly: :hug: but congratulations on the birth of your little boy.
Pz: thanks for sharing your birth story, glad you are happy with the decisions you made with your birth. Hope Isla and yourself are going well.
Congrats to Helly and PZ on bringing your babies into the world.
Helly, hugs for your feelings right now.