HotI, I saw my midwife monthly from 8 weeks, then fortnightly from 30 weeks and now weekly from 36 weeks.

Pip, thanks but we are rural NZ - I don't even think we have Doulas in NZ and only get the occasional student midwife. The children have never been left with anyone else.

Will have to put my thinking cap on and come up with some way to make it work with the kids here. I feel rather unprepared for the whole birth atm, just haven't had the time to think about it properly. Midwife wants to do a birth plan next visit so perhaps that will give me the kick up the butt I need