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I hear you about the fb status thing hotI. My dad announced the birth on fb the night of the birth, not long after we called to tell him. Thankfully he isn't friends with most of my friends and didn't tag me in the post. I think in his case he is just oblivious to fb etiquette. He is 60 after all and isn't really aware of stuff like that. But most of the rest of my family and friends wouldn't dream of doing that.
Hugs to you. It isn't ok babe. I would be quite pi**ed too
HotI, congratulations! Sounds like a lovely birth :) That is rude of your friend. I have found out about a couple of births via people posting on wall's before the parents have a chance. So rude!
Nothing wrong with a big bub. Are either of you very tall? DD2 was 2 pounds heavier than the other two, now at 4.5 months she is exactly the same stats as her sister was at this age.
Phooey to your friends and the FB posting, Hot1. That's poor form.
Thanks for that, i have been wondering how his growth will go from here. Guess we will just wait and see.:
Oh hoti. Your bubby boy sounds perfect. Better than my skin and bones children. Mine have been 6-8pounds but SUPER long. But DH and I are both very tall. But boy talk about ugly things till the boobie juice kicks in and fattens them up ;)
Your birth sounds great. Wow at the time for the placenta. That's hard work. My placentas come out with the babies! Super quick. I just cant imagine you having to work like that for another few hours!!!! You are an amazing women.
Poo to your friends. I always stalk the Facebook page of friends having babies as there is always a fool that will post before the parents. Sad for you :(
Do we get to hear his name?
HotI what a great size!! Wow! Good on you for growing and naturally birthing a baby that is certainly bigger than the average :)
I hear you on the FB stuff - how upsetting :( My SIL (DH's sister) had a baby 2 weeks before us - her DH sms'd his brother when SIL was still in recovery from her emergency c-sec, the brother posted on FB, then DH's younger siblings saw the announcement and all posted FB status updates too...their little girl's arrival and name was posted on FB by 5 people (SIL's BIL, and her siblings aged 13, 15, 17, 28) before she'd even made it out of recovery. Her dad, DH & I and the other 3 siblings all found out about the birth via FB. I was furious on her behalf but also relieved that it wasn't us it happened to or I would have come down on DH's family like a tonne of bricks :( SIL didn't get to announce the arrival of her daughter to a single person!! Before C was born, DH spoke to his dad and said noone was to post on FB before we said it was ok to and reminded everyone again when we called to say C was here. They all behaved themselves thankfully. I'm sorry your friend didn't respect you and your new bub :(
I SMSed and posted DD2's birth on FB myself a couple of hours after it happened - I was on such a high and so proud of myself that I wanted to shout it from the rooftops! I guess I wanted to show that HB had such a fabulous outcome for us. No one had a chance to steal my thunder. ;) Mind you, it was still the middle of the night, so it would have been hard!
Our minister put DD2's birth in his newsletter! It's been a great opportunity to talk to everyone about it all and how well it went. It was a very spiritual birth too, so I get added interest. Hannah means "gift from God" and that is exactly how we feel about her.
Well done on baking that little boy HotI! And birthing him quickly and naturally too! Absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about - shout it out and let everyone know that a big baby CAN be birthed normally! I've got a friend who believes she "had to have a c-section because her baby (8lb) was too big." Nothing to do with the fact that she was paralyzed, on her back, and not encouraged to take up any new positions during labour...:rolleyes: She tried a VBAC with her second baby, but the scar began to split in very early labour, and she was bleeding badly. So sad, IMO. I think everyone needs to know that women's bodies work quite well! God made them that way, and if you let them do their job, they'll generally do it! :)
Got a bit of a chuckle out of a conversation with other friends - they're expecting baby #5, and considering a homebirth for the first time. Well, she is, anyways. He is a little nervous about the whole idea. We, and another homebirthing couple were having coffee together with them, and talking about the benefits of homebirth, and at the end of the conversation, the husband was like "well, I guess it would be nice not to have to pay for parking." Ah yes, one of the main benefits of having your baby at home. Cheap parking. ;) We'll see what they end up deciding in the end.
I dreamed last night that my baby was born now, at 23 weeks. (I've been following a mom who planned a homebirth and did have her baby at 23 weeks, and lost the little boy. :( ) Woke up very thankful to still be pregnant. Put the aches and pains into new perspective again.
Hope everyone is doing well!
oh hoti, he sounds like a beautiful weight! you did a fabulous job baking him xx there was almost a kilo difference between DD1 and DD2. i remember being quite amazed at the difference in looks because of it. i have found that the girls evened up weight-wise within a few months, which was interesting
4 hours is quite the marathon! it was such an unknown for me as the first time wasnt even given a choice to go natural for the placenta.
cricket: oh wow! 23 weeks already! i feel that you only just announced!
Cricket, :hug: so sad for that Mama. No wonder you're having bad dreams. Time is flying by for your pg (but then, mine seemed to whiz by too)! Third tri is just around the corner.
*sOh hoti I'd be singing it from the rooftops! What a wonderful big bubba! With all the "big baby" fear going around, you're a freaking legend :D My babies we're on the bigger side (first was 4.3kg and the HB bubba was 4.7kg). They were both carrying a bit of chub and looked a bit puffed up at birth. They were also both very tall and topped the charts for height and head circumference so a lot of the weight was there. In my experience they both lost a bit more than the expected 10% and they also took longer than 2 weeks to reach their birth weights. They both had high palates and attachment issues so I struggled with feeding and low supply both times and I think that was a factor, but I also think they have more to play with so it seems natural they may lose a little more weight, and also not need to come up to birth weight as quickly.
Poo to your friends! Very poor form. I always check if anything is on a person's FB page before discussing any of their news that I'm privvy to.
Love the free parking cricket :lol: That's totally what sold me on a HB :rofl:
Speaking of FB I am sure a few of you have seen my status, but for those who haven't:
Its turned into a huge discussion, feel free to add me (BellyBelly Kelly | Facebook) if you haven't seen it. But, *sigh*. I am going to do my thing though, not going to leave this and take it for what it is. I'm on this planet to make change, so its my time....:
Sooo.. I find a GP in country Victoria who is lovely and willing to support my homebirth... but he speaks to the hospital (where he also works) and they refuse saying that they don't want reckless behaviour or a freebirth on their hands. Isn't that just what they have gone and promoted by saying no???? GP says I could just rock up and he is sure I wont be refused treatment, but, I wonder how I would be treated if that was the case. This is a joke. Time to put on my media hat and get this crap exposed. So much for supporting women to be safe.
Have you tried contacting the hospital yourself? I'm guessing it isn't everyone at the hospital that will be like this (well, I hope not anyway!).
My GP just wrote me a letter advising the hospital I wanted to book in in case of transfer. There was no need to contact the hospital herself. I just went in as any other pg woman would and went through the m/ws and admissions. I only needed to see an ob because of my previous c/s (and even she was lovely and quite supportive, unofficially!). I don't quite get why someone at the hospital is giving the GP a hard time and threatening to withhold treatment from you. I've heard of transferring HBers being given a hard time and their IM, but before the fact...??
I am aware that not all GPs are as easy to deal with as mine was. Partly from the fact that my m/w rushed to write down her name when I told her mine followed her letter outlining scripts, etc, exactly! My GP thinks most things that go wrong with birth are because of (male) drs. ;) I can't wait to go and see her again and tell her how well it went without any!
The GP is one of the consulting doctors there, so I think thats why. He needs their 'approval' or he could well lose his job there, as someone suggested. Perhaps?
What do you need the GP for? Are you trying to form a collaborative agreement between them and your midwife?
Haha, good point. Yes I was, because I heard he is very supportive, would be great to claim it through medicare. I figured if he was supportive it wouldn't be a problem was a bit surprised they said no. Also being in the country I wanted to make sure I had a decent back-up plan when its hard enough trying to find one midwife close by, let alone two! She'll have a bit of a drive to get to me.
I'm thankful again that I live in a country where care by midwives and homebirth are, perhaps not fully accepted, but fully funded and procedures are in place for registering with a hospital when planning a homebirth, and my midwives having working relationships with different ob's in case a consultation or transfer is necessary. It's not a perfect system by any stretch, but it sure has it's good points!
And really, when it comes down to the bottom line, it saves the Canadian health care system money to have women use a midwife and give birth at home! Just as safe, and way cheaper. That's an angle that might get some attention from policy makers. :) Australia uses both public and private health care, right? So some of it is tax funded? They might be interested to hear that then.
Just got ro see the first edit of my birth video today. It was amazing!! We all cried and laughed And cried some more. The funniest thing in the whole video was either me warning my husband that he should move his fingers because I wanted to bite them or when the baby was crowning I believe I said " omg! that stings like a mother f**ker!". Not my most composed moment ever lol! Anyway once we have watched it a bit more and agreed on the final edit I will post here so you girls can have a look.
How exciting, Bella!! I'm going to look at mine in the next day or so because my sister is coming to stay and she's keen to see it. (She's about 25 wks pg with #1). I'm excited about seeing it too.
Lol at your exclamation, Bella. I really felt stinging at the front and didn't like that at all! I'm not surprised you swore! Only part of my birth where I asked for help.
Oooh, I can't wait to see it Bella! How exciting.
During my second birth, I remember saying 'it's killing' as DS's head was crowning. I could have easily sworn though!
HotI, how are you? How is your precious boy? I agree with the comment about shouting from the rooftops the fact that you homebirthed a 'bigger' baby.
I am well. Couldn't have my MW appt. yesterday due to minor flooding - MW couldn't get to my place. Glad I wasn't in labour! Although the back up MW would have been able to get here, so it would have been ok. We rescheduled our appt. for next week. Back-up MW will come to see me tomorrow. My last lot of pathology came back- ferritin levels have quadrupled, so I am happy about that. I didn't have the Strep B swab.
I hope everyone is well.
Hey ash does that mean u r a qld girl? I am on the sunshine coast. Hope you are ok. I look forward to sharing my video, I really do :)
oh that would be so awesome to see your video! and lovely for the others yet to have their babies. i remember just soaking them all up when i was pg with DD2!
bella, id love love love to see it! love the "stings like a mother f**ker"! that it does!
seriously though, I could use some positive birth videos right now. because its getting close, Im having self doubts. the usual, will I cope? will I feel as out of control this time around? blah blah...
4 weeks til edd!
eta- cassius, I keep thinking of the picture of you right after giving birth to dd2. I swear, that's what's got me not giving into the fears.xx
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Same photo for me too, Loulabelle. I can post mine immediately afterwards if you like, 'cause I swear I've never looked happier!
Looking forward to seeing yours, Bella! I will share mine if I can do so in a limited way but I might need some instruction!
OH YES!!! please do Jennifer! those moments right after birth...so so amazing...and i reckon pretty much confined to HB mamas...all those happy hormones in a safe happy place....ahhh bliss!
I so have to see this pic! Can I please see? :)
It's magic!! Cassius looks like how I felt... but it turns out when I saw my photos, I must have been grinning like that on the inside :lol: I totally thought I was getting photos that looked the same :rofl:
Oh good, i'm not the only one then!:
Oops! Hoti- I just tried to PM you but your mailbox is full... can you please edit my quote to put in Cassius's name? Thanks :)
I'm glad I'm not the only one!
Louloubelle I will be chatting ro my videographer and when we r ready for it to go viral ;) will let everyone know :). Shouldn't be too long, cos I am really happy with the edit :)
hhmmm i was going to post a couple of pics, but couldnt decide...so you will all have to watch my vid again hahahahaha (i have *most* of my fav ones up on that hehehe)...
here tis: Baby Marta's homebirth
This is going to sound mooshy, but because Hot1, Bella and I all shared our pgs and then HBed within a couple of weeks of each other, I drew a huge amount of strength from knowing both of you were 'there'. I feel incredibly lucky to have had such great HB sisters!
I was inspired by those who'd gone before and comforted by you two. Thanks for being there! Mwah.
I'll post some photos today.
Beautiful pics Cassius! My DD loved them too. She especially loved the "Hello Baby" caption, since we've been reading that book together lately. (great book, btw. Excellent opportunity to discuss pregnancy/labour/birth etc. with all the girls!)
Bella - looking forward to seeing yours too! :)
Gorgeous Cassius *sniff* - loved those huge smiles.
Okay, I've only managed to add one due to size restrictions and I've made it private but added most of you as contacts. Let me know if you can't see it and want to.
Not mooshy at all- it makes perfect sense. I will probably think of the three of you 'HB sisters' at some point to give me strength too.:
Oh Cassius, I had to watch your montage again :) So beautiful, and it made me teary again.
Bella- I live in the Far North Coast of NSW. We live on a hill so we are safe, but there are a lot of road closures.
My back-up MW was flooded in today! She said if I went in to labour, she could hike across a couple of paddocks and wait on the road for someone (like my mum) to pick her up. I am not worrying about it. I am not expecting our bub to turn up for another couple of weeks, and I doubt that we will still be having flooding issues at that point. We will probably be back to our usual heat wave weather! If I went in to labour while my MW's were flooded in, I could still get to the hospital. All roads to the local hospital are clear but I really don't want to entertain that thought.
Oooh, just saw your post Jen - I'd love to see it. How do I access it?
Nawwwww. Jen your lovely!!! You know I feel the same you know. It was really nice especially in the due date groups to not feel like the only hb mamma. Knowing you had go e before me and hbac was also special. I needed to hear some positivity since two of my mates transfered from their planned hbacs and had cs, and I was with both of them when it happened.:
So yeah it is a special bond. I have it irl with two girls that I know who we're both attended by my MW. They were friends before we were all pregnant tho so it was just coincidence and super lovely. Funnily enough one who birthed her little girl 9 hrs after me named her little girl madelyn. :). So lots of bonds.
I don't know if I can see ur photo on my phone Jen, but I can't wait to see it!
Cas, I just went and saw ur montage. A, how gorgeous are you! And B how awesome is your photo just after birthing Marty! Just beautiful!
Hey Kelly, how u doing love? I read ur fb status the other day and it sounds like u r struggling at times. Big hugs love.... I hope you find a way to feel better.
Lovely pic Jen! I remember that "super happy, I'm so glad to be done, and so thrilled to meet my baby" feeling! Looking forward to it again.... :)
Jen I can't see the photo. Loads of love in this thread. But that's the idea so not mushy at all :)